Year of the Inner Child: Spring

I often say that trauma covers, hides, conceals our true nature, and a big part of the healing process is learning to shed those layers to allow your best, most wonderful self to shine through. Clearing the "debris" of the past also creates space for new growth, new discoveries!

Here's to creating a healthy future!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/DXxRLmCWAA8

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

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Head to Toe Relaxation

Want a simple relaxation technique that will help you release tension from various regions of the body on command? 

I've got you!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/ZCBE1SnR_Hc

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

Year of the Inner Child: Discernment

Discernment has a lot to do with the "act of perceiving and observation." Unfortunately, abuse often leads us to have skewed perceptions and to only observe evidence that supports what we already believe.

A huge part of re-parenting ourselves has to do with shedding the trauma that obscures or confuses our ability to discern who we are, what we like, what we need, what we want.

And a great way to do that kind of work? Making choices!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/wHOoak8q6iU

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

Kalpa: Kicking Ass in the Workplace

     

In this episode, I have the joy of talking with Kalpa Gupta about the common ways that childhood trauma can impact our work, such as hiding behind achievement, overcompensating, not using our voice, and getting triggered.

We discuss ways that we can enter into the workplace more grounded, empowered, and self-aware.

Kalpa wants you to know, “You are perfect just the way you are and you are not alone.”

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/JxrqC7TB9hs

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Year of the Inner Child: Work

One of the things I often end up discussing with my clients is work and the ways in which they feel stuck, scared, or confused about how to navigate this area of their lives.

Trauma can impact the way we think and feel about work and success and being able to unpack and challenge that messaging is so important.

Also important is learning how to let your adult self lead even while still drawing on the gifts of your inner child!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/2lWfiD-SaxM

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

Tense & Release Exercise

"Muscle tension is commonly associated with stress, anxiety, and PTSD symptoms as part of a process that helps the body prepare for potentially dangerous situations."

This is why many survivors of trauma find that they are in constant states of tension and sometimes even feel like that don't even know what this whole "relaxed" state of being is. It feels like unfamiliar territory.

This progressive muscle relaxation practice is all about helping you to become more aware of where your body holds tension, particularly subtle muscle tension, and how to move into a state of release and relaxation.

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/7nOS69ssxAY

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#beyondsurviving #sexualabusesurvivor #nervoussystemregulation #bodyawareness #grounding #progressivemusclerelaxation #relaxation #bodyconsciousness #selfresourcing #incestsurvivor #healingsexualtrauma #foryou #viral #coachrachelsays #coaching #toolsthatwork #healing 

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

Year of the Inner Child: Play

Have you lost that playful feeling? Has it been forever since you just cut loose and let yourself be silly and present and playful?

If so, I hope you'll embrace this week's invitation to do at least one enjoyable thing that the child within you never had the freedom to do.

I did that very thing this past weekend, and whoa - it turned out to be a weekend of miracles! 

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/PcKF-WBrGM4

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

Are you an honest person?

We are all liars.

In the very moment that our trust is violated and we are abused, we have to make a decision – will we tell or will we cover it up.

Most of us, because we are young when the abuse occurs, don’t even make this decision in a deeply insightful way. We simply know something about what has happened is bad and wrong, and you get in trouble for doing bad and wrong things – so we don’t tell.

This means that we sit down to breakfast with this huge thing happening that we can’t speak about. When asked if anything is wrong, we say, “I need more butter on my pancakes.”

Our word becomes more and more degraded over time.

Soon, we tell little lies out of habit rather than necessity.

This disconnection from what we say lining up with what is happening, what we are doing is what I call “a lack of integrity.”

Now, integrity is one of those words that usually makes people stiffen uneasily. It seems to be a word that connotes unachievable heights.

For me, though, integrity is simply saying what you mean, and meaning what you say – then following through with action to see to it that what you’ve given your word comes to fruition.

For example, don’t say, “I hate you, I’m never going to talk to you again” if you don’t mean it. If you do mean it, then do it! Don’t say, “We should get together for lunch sometime” unless you mean it. If you do mean it, then send an email or make a call to actually get a date on the calendar.

In the world of recovery, we hear a lot about building back our self-esteem, getting over the shame and guilt, forgiving, and a myriad of other areas that are affected by abuse.

Yet, the one area I’ve noticed doesn’t get addressed often is the impact of abuse on our ability to live authentic, integrous lives.

For too long, we have been disconnected from our voice as a way to restore integrity and to cut out the lying.

So, before we go any further, I want you to consider deeply what you are giving your word to these days, and what the impact is on you and others when you don’t follow through.

Don’t say “maybe” if you really mean “no.”

Don’t say, “I’ll call you” if you aren’t going to.

Try this week to not speak idly, but to honor your word.

It may seem scary, you may hesitate to conceive that your word, your voice could be powerful – but take this step and you’re on your way to living a life of integrity!

To reclaiming your voice,

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RESOURCE OF THE MONTH

Want to do more of a dive deep on this topic? Check this out!

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UPCOMING EVENTS

MAY 4th

3p-5p PT / 6p-8p ET

FREE

in partnership with Kerengende Foundation

From this workshop you will:

* Learn why and how fear and anxiety keep you immobilized and stuck so you will stop missing out on your life

* Identify your three core fears so that you can focus on the areas in your life that need transformation the most

* Gain a powerful tool for deflating anxiety so you can manage your fears and take action when needed

* Discover how to vanquish a fear in 4 easy steps

Learn More & Register Here

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MAY 11th

3p-4:30p PT / 6p-7:30p ET

SLIDING SCALE $10-$25

in partnership with The Breathe Network

Silence is often uncomfortable. And yet for survivors of sexual abuse, silence is where we live. For many of us, we become captives to this silence because we are told out right: be quiet, keep this a secret, do not tell. Or maybe you’re like me, and you decided not to tell because you believed no one would understand or care anyway.

Either way – the outcome is the same. You find yourself day after day trying to be in relationships with friends, peers, lovers, spouses – but it just never feels quite right because there is a part of you that is hiding. And if you do find the courage to share your story, you’re met with denial, rationalization, people saying some really stupid shit that is even more hurtful.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. In this workshop, we’re going to talk about how we can have kick ass conversations about really shitty things.

From this workshop you will:

* Understand the 3 foundations for healthy conversations

* Gain a solid strategy that will help you develop a clear game plan for having a conversation

* Learn how to have kick ass conversations about really shitty things

Learn More & Register Here

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Note the new time!!!

in partnership with CPTSD Foundation

MAY 8th

Anger

As survivors of childhood abuse, we can have an enormous amount of anger inside us. Anger is a healthy and natural response to abuse and exploitation.

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Year of the Inner Child: Responsibility

When we experience trauma, we are taught the lesson that external forces have great ability to impact us. This is true.

AND - what's tricky is that as we come out of abusive situations, we continue to look to something external - not only as a source of potential pain, but as the source of happiness and safety.

This is an error.

We are responsible for our own happiness. And re-parenting ourselves has a lot to do with no longer looking outside of ourselves but instead owning the choices we are making that are either contributing to or diminishing our happiness.

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/b5yMJLoXytQ

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now