Year of Self-Care: Rejuvenation

This week, I take you on a virtual tour of the park in my hometown where I spent a lot of my childhood!

We explore what it means to "begin again", to change the lens so we see the fullness of our lives, so we can understand ourselves "whole-istically"!

What childhood place shaped you?

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/9fIFxrMLT10

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #yearofselfcare #beyondsurviving #rejuvenate #childhood #playground #wholeself #memories #reclaimyourlife #goodandbad #ptsd #childhoodtrauma #nurturing #miniaturegolf #exploration #courage #safeadults #whatshapedyou

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

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Year of Self-Care: Achievement

Are you ready to be surprised by where your dreams can lead you?

For those of us who have experienced abuse, pursuing our dreams can feel like a daunting task.

Where to begin? Can I really do it? Will I finally feel worthy if I achieve xyz? What if I'm disappointed?

Let's talk about this and more!

And if one of your dreams is to break free from the pain of abuse, please check out my upcoming group program for women: www.rachelgrantcoaching.com/group-program

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/oZVeNVRhP3s

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #yearofselfcare #beyondsurviving #achievement #dreams #youareworthy #value #breakfree #ptsd #childholdtrauma #metoo #healing #transformation #desires

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

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Lisa: Restoring My Innocence

In this episode, my guest Lisa Smith and I discuss the difference between striving to "move on" or "get past" issues that result from abuse and true healing and wholeness that includes a restoration of innocence.

A word from Lisa:

“Innocence is lost in such big and small ways... and we seldom hear of a restoration of innocence. I believe that we can heal from even the deepest wounds, so that they are transformed to places of strength and peace. We cannot undo, or forget the trauma we have experienced, but I believe that the pain, accusation and conclusions we experience can be healed and transformed into confidence, love and strength. I have found hope, forgiveness, good friends and faith to be keys to this process. Each of us is worth our own best fight!”

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/to4QjoXSops

#beyondsurviving #shareyourtruth #innocence #restoration #ptsd #metoo #peace #strength #confidence #love #healing #transformation

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

Year of Self-Care: Friendship

The invitation this week is to take some time to consider how you're doing when it comes to connecting with others!

Maybe you've fallen into some patterns of withdrawal and isolation. Maybe you've got some connections but want to take them deeper but get afraid? Maybe you just don't even know where to begin when it comes to overcoming the fears that hold you back from forming friendships and allowing yourself to be seen?

Let's explore the importance of friendship in helping us thrive!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/a5iW_QuyM0k

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #yearofselfcare #beyondsurviving #friendship #connection #thrive #metoo #ptsd #overcome #beseen #youmatter #isolation #loneliness #support #community

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

5-5-8-2 Breath: The Power of Exhalation

Did you know that extending exhalations leads to "longer parasympathetic (relaxation response) activation? Well indeed it does --- and that's a helpful thing to know, because that means we can use prolonged exhalation to help ground and self-soothe.

Follow along and practice this 5-5-8-2 Breath technique and see if you notice a difference when you slow down your exhale!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/JUWKxIf6Zdo

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#beyondsurviving #coachrachelsays #somatichealing #traumatoolkit #nervoussystem #grounding #healing #raiseyourvibration #selfempowerment #youarepowerful💫 #balancedlife #dissociation #relaxation 

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

The day I told my high school principal to f*** off!

My father was diagnosed with terminal cancer right around the start of my senior year of high school. I had also broken up with my "first true love" right around that same time.

As you can imagine, my little 17 year old self didn't quite know how to cope with it all. Sure I put on a good front (childhood s*xual abuse had made me a master at pretending)!

But as I watched my father wither away and at the same time tried to mend my broken heart, I was a swirly whirly mess of thoughts and feelings.

I stopped caring about pretty much everything. I was depressed, overwhelmed, and was at the same time trying to chart a course for my future. I'm the first person in my family to go to college, so that whole applying for college process was daunting for us all.

Side note: I have to give mad props to my mom who was watching the love of her life die, and she still never once dropped the ball with me, stopped encouraging or helping me. #warriorwoman

Given all of this, I started skipping school. Though, I was pretty cunning about it!

I had a doctor who could see I was struggling and so he gave me a bunch of signed doctor's notes so I would get excused absences (now that was a medical professional who was trauma informed way before his time!).

All was going well, until one day about 3 months before the end of my senior year, I just spaced (hello dissociation!) and forgot to turn in one of the notes.

The principal, who was already not my biggest fan (why? that's a story for another day!), pounced on me.

I was called into his office and he gleefully announced that I was going to be expelled for too many absences and truancy. 

While everything inside of me wanted to rip his face off, I kept my cool and explained that things were tough right now, my dad was dying, and I was having a hard time keeping up with things.

To which he replied, "I don't want to hear your excuses. You're probably lying anyway."

I was so stunned that I couldn't say anything, which he took as confirmation that he was right. 

Luckily, I had a school counselor who advocated on my behalf and got him to agree to let me finish my senior year, but I would have to do so at the Junior High in the detention room! This meant I would have to teach myself all of the remaining material and prep for and take my finals in what I sarcastically began to describe as "exile" (humor has ALWAYS been one way I've survived the tough shit in my life).

Long story short, I passed all of my finals with flying colors.

Graduation Day! I had done it, and my dad was still alive and able to be there to see me walk across the stage to get my diploma.

As I approached the principal, one hand out to take the diploma, one hand out to shake his hand as we'd been instructed to do, I channeled every hurt and angry part of me to grip his hand so he couldn't let go and said, "You see that man over there in the wheelchair, about to breathe his last breath?" He glanced, then feebly nodded. "That's my dad. You can go f*** yourself."

I didn't do the nice thing. I refused to be the "bigger person". I rebelled against all of my country girl training. I found my voice in that moment and let that sad, pathetic man know exactly what I thought!

This was a critical turning point in my healing journey - though I didn't fully appreciate how much until years later.

But it was in this moment that I felt and understood the power of breaking free of people pleasing. I became firmly committed to set as a goal to not care so much about what people thought and to live my own damn life.

Now I certainly haven't been perfect in that - abuse really does a number on us, fills us with shame, makes us question our deservingness so much that it just feels easier to take care of everyone else, play nice - right?

But I want you to know - that if you are struggling to find your voice, if you're stuck in cycles of people pleasing, pushing your needs aside - that doesn't have to remain the case.

Everyday, I work with people who are no longer willing to sacrifice themselves and supporting them in developing their "No! I won't be nice!" attitude. This is one of the most enjoyable parts of my time with them!


Here's to not being nice,

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Watch this interview with Dr. Aziz all about giving up "nice"!


Can you think of a time when being "not nice" really served you?

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UPCOMING EVENTS



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This program is designed for all types of survivors who are sick and tired of going around the same mountain over and over again and who want to learn specific tools and skills for transforming their lives.

In the Beyond Surviving program, I've combined what I have learned through my own journey of recovery from s*xual abuse, my study of neuroscience, my training in counseling psychology, and my experience working with hundreds of clients. I have included every lesson, exercise, worksheet, client example, and training module that has made a difference for me and my clients into this program.

We use my guidebook, Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse, as the roadmap through seven modules that address the critical areas of life that are impacted by abuse.

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JULY 11th

Disclosure


Having a safe place to totally "come out" to ourselves is so needed for healing. We will share about our experiences telling others about the abuse and what we can do to best prepare and decide when/if to disclose about the abuse.

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Year of Self-Care: Guidance

This week we get the opportunity to first practice asking for guidance, but then more importantly start to notice where that guidance is coming from!

Is it our trauma self or our divine self?

I share how you can know the difference!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/OQN7rmy9oVs

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #yearofselfcare #beyondsurviving #guidance #higherself #divine #askforhelp #shedthetrauma #tunein #empowered #ptsd #childhoodtrauma #healingthatlasts

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now