A Return to Your Genuine Self: February 2023

February 27, 2023

Year of the Inner Child: Touch

There's no doubt that our relationship to touch is impacted by trauma. We are introduced to touch in all of the wrong ways. Or...the other possibility is that you experienced neglect and a lack of touch. Either way, we need to understand our current associations with touch and begin building new connections that give us access to this life giving, joy giving sense!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/mSNXNGwg18Y

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February 20, 2023

Year of the Inner Child: Savor

Savoring life is often so hard when we've experienced abuse. Instead, numb, rushed, dissociated become the norm.

But your inner child is longing to savor - to enjoy completely. And not just the "good" stuff - but it ALL!

This message arrives right on time for me as I attend to my mother's dying and I hope will serve as a powerful invitation to you today to slow it down and take it all in!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/YKTWCkJmFrU

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February 16, 2023

Vangile: Overcoming Financial Trauma

In this episode of the Beyond Surviving podcast, I have the wonderful opportunity to chat with Vangile Makwakwa. She is an author, healer, world traveler, and wealth coach.

She shares with us about her journey of healing and an important piece of that puzzle which we don’t often talk about – overcoming financial fears and trauma

She offers a beautiful exercise/practice for releasing limiting beliefs we hold about money as well!

Vangile wants you to know, “Money and emotions are tied together. Not just yours – but your ancestors’ as well.”

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/pWFM7f75Wyc

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February 13, 2023

Year of the Inner Child: Power

This is such an important step in healing from trauma: empowering ourselves (and our inner child)!

This week's invitation is to resist old narratives that you are helpless, hopeless, powerless and to explore the benefits of expressing your power and needs.

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/0lMwn84hOiQ

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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February 10, 2023

Sensory Sensitization Exercise

In this video, I take you step by step through a playful sensory sensitization exercise! This is another great way to use our external world to increase our internal awareness. It's also important in getting us thinking about the ways we have become desensitized as a result of trauma and what "waking up the senses" really means. I also share about how a client of mine recently used interoception to decide whether or not a relationship was working for her!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/wx6J_7Nzy-o.

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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February 7, 2023

Are you trapped by the fantasy of "could have"/"should have"?

I'm not going to waste any time in this month's post - let's get right to the heart of the matter.

“How easily a life can become a litany of guilt and regret, a song that keeps echoing with the same chorus, with the inability to forgive ourselves. How easily the life we didn’t live becomes the only life we prize. How easily we are seduced by the fantasy that we are in control, that we were ever in control, that the things we could or should have done or said have the power, if only we had done or said them, to cure pain, to erase suffering, to vanish loss. How easily we can cling to – worship – the choice we think we could or should have made.”

― Edith Eva Eger, The Choice: Embrace the Possible

Let's break this down shall we?!

1. A song that keeps echoing the same chorus -- rumination my friends, spurred on by regret and anxiety. The problem is - if we keep playing the same tune in our minds, we will not see any opportunity for change, new possibilities, transformation - AND we keep living from a disempowered place - life always being something that is HAPPENING TO US rather than something we are experiencing, crafting, creating, and stewarding.

2. Inability to forgive ourselves -- so so many of us are comfortable with guilt. It's a familiar (and easy) feeling. When we turn away from guilt and towards self-forgiveness (releasing that which we wished had been different), the feeling you will allow in? - grief. Not so easy as guilt - often one people try with all their might to avoid. And yet, it is through our grieving that we plant new seeds for living.

3. The life we DIDN'T live becomes the ONLY life we PRIZE. Damn!!! Should I even elaborate or is that to the point enough? What a sad thing to be forever glorifying that which isn't while missing out on all this is!

4. How easily we are seduced...fantasy is a powerful tool, but it can have a very sharp edge. One that we use to cut ourselves again and again with the illusion of "if only". We imagine we can find the exact moment in our lives when a "should have" or a "could have" would have been our saving grace and all terror would have been banished. But no, this is a falsehood. Quit imagining the life you might have lived and live the life you have!

And with that - we access the true source of our power - choice and presence.

"I can celebrate your choice to dismantle the prison in your mind, brick by brick. You can't change what happened, you can't change what you did or what was done to you. But you can choose how you live now. My precious, you can choose to be free."

― Edith Eva Eger, The Choice: Embrace the Possible

If you're ready to choose yourself, life, today, freedom, I'm down to go on that journey with you! Apply for a Discover Your Genuine Self session today - let's do this!

To unlimited possibilities,

Watch this video about an amazing lost cats sanctuary that only came into existence because people believed in possibilities!

What is one thing you once believed would be impossible that actually you are now doing/experiencing?

BOOK OF THE MONTH

Edie weaves her remarkable personal journey with the moving stories of those she has helped heal. She explores how we can be imprisoned in our own minds and shows us how to find the key to freedom. The Choice is a life-changing book that will provide hope and comfort to generations of readers.

February 6, 2023

Year of the Inner Child: Goodbyes

There is a lot up for us around connection and releasing connection. This is often due to the messaging we receive that we are worthless, unlovable, etc.

This week, the invitation is to explore your relationship to "goodbyes" and to take account of where you might need some healing and where you might be ignoring the need to say goodbye out of fear.

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/bTU9tm09s1k

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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