October 31, 2022

Year of Self-Care: Progress

This week, I invite you to f*** up often and with a smile! Making mistakes is how we move forward. If you are waiting for it to be perfect...well, get used to waiting! 😬

If you're ready to get unstuck, make some mistakes this week! Do it imperfectly!

And if you need some support in releasing the trauma that caused you to think that it has to be perfect or else ... please check out my upcoming group program:

www.rachelgrantcoaching.com/group-program





Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse


#beyondsurviving #mondaymini #yearofselfcare #progress #imperfection #makemistakes #coachrachelsays #nervoussystemregulation #sexualabuse #incestsurvivor #healingsexualtrauma #foryou #viral


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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse


The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 
This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.


October 24, 2022

Year of Self-Care: Dance

Oh haaaaaaaayyyyyyyy! Y'all ready to get your groove on? Dancing for me has been a lifeline throughout all my years. It's, for me, one of the best ways to get out of my head, into my body, be playful, and have fun. You do not need to be a "good" dancer. If you're moving your body, you're doing it right!

Dance it up this week!




Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#beyondsurviving #mondaymini #yearofselfcare #dance #movement #embodiment #coachrachelsays #nervoussystemregulation #sexualabuse #incestsurvivor #healingsexualtrauma #foryou #viral


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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse


The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 
This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.


October 17, 2022

Year of Self-Care: Boundaries

Ooooooooooo come on y'all! This is such an important way to practice self-care.

We get to say yes and no. We get to decide where we spend our time and energy. We get to be curious about what's not working so well for us in this area 🤗

Let's explore how we can level up our boundary setting skills!





Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#beyondsurviving #mondaymini #yearofselfcare #boundaries #saveyourenergy #justsayno #findyourvoice #coachrachelsays #nervoussystemregulation #sexualabuse #incestsurvivor #healingsexualtrauma #foryou #viral

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse


The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 
This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.


October 14, 2022

Tammie: Life After an Abusive Marriage

In this episode, I chat with Tammie Mobley about the complex correlation between childhood trauma and partner violence. She and I talk about our lived experiences, the red flags we missed, and what we wish we had done differently. She also shares about how she’s training up the next generation so they can cultivate healthy relationships!

Tammie wants you to know that “healthy relationships allow you to have space, allow you to have friends, allow you to make choices.”




#beyondsurviving #survivorstories #domesticviolence #metoo #domesticviolenceawareness #prevention #healthyrelationships #findyourvoice #resourcesforhealing #redflags #choice #healing #thriving #sexualabuse #donotgiveup #healingjourney #neuroscience #nervoussystemregulation 


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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 
This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.



October 10, 2022

Year of Self-Care: Creativity

Have you become detached from playfulness, silliness, creativity, self-expression?

It happens for so many of us. Abuse makes us grow up so fast and become super serious.

The invention this week is to tap into your imagination, get it out of your head, and manifest it into the real world!





Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#beyondsurviving #mondaymini #yearofselfcare #creativity #innermuse #selfexpression #coachrachelsays #nervoussystemregulation #sexualabuse #incestsurvivor #healingsexualtrauma #foryou #viral


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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse


The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 
This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.


October 4, 2022

How throwing away my scale liberated me....

When I was ten years old, my grandfather began abusing me. Not long after the abuse began, food became my go to strategy for comfort. I remember even playing "sick" so I could stay home to avoid going to school where I felt so out of place. I would sit it in front of the TV and eat -- completely dissociating (of course, I didn't know that word then, but that's what I was doing).

As so many survivors of abuse do, I turned to food as a way to distract myself. Had beliefs that, "If I am just fat enough, he will stop touching me" or "This extra layer of me is what's being hurt, not the real me on the inside".

In my adult years, I felt like each day was a constant battle with food. Feeling guilty and wrong for eating one thing (ice cream), feeling like a winner if I ate another (salad). 

It didn't help that I ended up in an abusive marriage with a man hellbent on making me his "trophy" and so I had to look the part, and if I didn't was quickly called every body-shaming word in the book. This caused me to hugely rebel (never have liked being told what to do) and I gained 60 pounds.

When he and I divorced, the weight melted away and yet, I still struggled everyday -- absolutely uncomfortable in my own skin, worried about my weight, constantly monitoring what I was eating.

I'd make some progress and then throw it all away by eating everything in sight, often as a result of someone noticing or complimenting me on my slimmed down body. It was so jarring and triggering that I pretty much made a beeline for the ice cream aisle.

Despite any reassurance from my lovers that I was beautiful, I couldn't absorb it. I refused to believe it. In fact, all during this time of my life, the scale was my only real judge. If I hopped on and the number was down, I felt great. If I hopped on and the number was up, I felt like shit. And I got on that scale every day to determine how I should feel, to be validated (or invalidated).


Then one day it hit me, "I am hitting the reset button on my self-acceptance meter every damn time I step on that scale!"


I realized that I had fallen into a terrible trap of looking to external information for validation and acceptance (I did it with a scale, maybe you do it with people, money, career).

The question that came up for me then was, "How do I love and accept myself completely in each moment, regardless of the external things that will always change anyway?"

See, I didn't want to be on a rollercoaster of acceptance and un-acceptance! This is so painful and exhausting, because the weight is ever changing, the wrinkles and gray hairs staking their claim, the money comes and goes (and so do people). If loving ourselves is tied to such transitory things -- well, the outcome is a total and complete lack of self-love.

So, I had to learn how to have standards for myself (eating healthy, exercising, movement, taking care of myself) without tying it to my value or worth or self-acceptance.

This has been a long road to be sure, but one of the very first steps I took was to create an acceptance mantra (this is one my favorite things to teach clients these days). 

Here's an example:

"I am beautiful and deserve to be cherished." 

Notice how I don't say, "... if I am ______, or if I do _________, or if I achieve ____________."


As a result, I've come to see that self-acceptance is a declaration of value that stands, is unmovable, is absolutely independent of anything external.


So, if I eat ice cream everyday, I am beautiful and deserve to be cherished. If I eat ice cream once a week, I am beautiful and deserve to be cherished. Now, one might think, "Oh no Rachel! You must be eating ice cream all of the time now then!"

But actually, when I stopped tying what I eat to my value, food became about nourishment, community, and pleasure, and so I was able to give food it's proper place in my life!

If you're ready to radically love and accept yourself and need some guidance as to how to get there, take a moment to fill out this application for a free Discover your Genuine Self session - let's talk and see if I can be a support to you!

To deeply loving and accepting ourselves,




Watch this free webinar on "3 Steps to Prevent Relapse in Eating Disorder Recovery" (and be sure to follow @empoweredrx)

What would be the benefit today for you of separating your value from meeting certain standards (especially as related to food)?





BOOK OF THE MONTH



In this inspirational memoir, Ingrid endures medical mysteries and emotional pain as she searches for answers for overcoming repressed childhood trauma. By sharing the truth, even from the pages of her own journals, Ingrid hopes to spread awareness of the connection between childhood trauma, mental health, and physical symptoms. 

READ MORE HERE!
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UPCOMING EVENTS


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Join Toby Stark & Rachel Grant for this LIVE training on November 12th and let us help you turn your intention into prevention!

Do you worry if it’s really possible to protect your child from sexual abuse?

Are you hyper-vigilant and aren’t sure how to strike a healthy balance between protection and freedom?

Are you worried about how to talk to your children about body safety without scaring them?

If these questions are on your mind, then you don’t want to miss this live training in which Toby & I will be guiding you through the 3 Pillars of Being an Empowered Parent: Awareness, Response, & Prevention.

Early Bird Registration and your chance to save $100 closes 10/21.


Learn More & Register Here







OCTOBER 10th

Writing Workshop with special guest Donna Jenson



I am excited to announce that Donna Jenson will be returning this year to lead her"Honoring and Using Our Voices" workshop.

Donna founded Time To Tell™ in 2009 with a mission to spark stories from lives affected by incest and sexual abuse to be told and heard. It is a sponsored project of Fractured Atlas, a non-profit arts service organization. She wrote and performs her one-woman play, What She Knows: One Woman’s Way Through Incest to Joy, which is based on her own experience of surviving incest and what she did to make her life worth living. She will be sharing he amazing gifts for tapping into voice through writing during this month's group. Do not miss this!!




October 3, 2022

Year of Self-Care: Action

 Every journey begins with one step. Getting into action requires often that we zoom in from the big goal and focus on the tiniest first step we can take so that we don't get overwhelmed and paralyzed. .

What small step will you take this week?






Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse


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This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.


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