A Return to Your Genuine Self: November 2021

November 29, 2021

I am slowing my roll

Hear how I avoided a major mishap in communication by slowing down and getting curious even though my first instinct was to throw flaming arrows!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/x6nJ864r5cA

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #communication #curiosity #slowyourroll #pause #breathe #healing #metoo #sexualabuse #connection

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November 22, 2021

As we head into this coming Thanksgiving, I am feeling very mindful of my Native American ancestors and the process of healing ancestral wounds. There are layers and complexities here for me, but I am inspired to share how this part of my healing has been eye opening and rewarding.

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/TsJU2Zv85Aw

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #dansiegel #lyvonneproverbs #mindsight #delawaretribe #healing #ancestors #wisdom #epigenetics #journey #miracle #honor #gratitude

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

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November 15, 2021

I am healthy

What are the ways that we can intuitively care for our mental, emotional, and physical well-being? I share some of my favorite ways to be in this conversation with myself on the daily.

What do you do to create vitality in your life?

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/ywlleC4s1eI

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #mentalhealh #vitality #intuition #healing #sexualabuse #nourishyourself

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

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November 12, 2021

What's your boiling point?

I share with you a strategy for being able to gauge when you are reaching your boiling point - the level of distress at which your stress level becomes unmanageable. This is critical so that you can slow down when doing trauma healing work, when communicating or interacting with others, or when doing any self-guided healing work. You DO NOT want to go past your boiling point!

I also share about how states of relaxation can also be activating for some and how "stress-laxing" can impair our ability to reap the benefits of rest!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/1LMS4YQY5CE

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #beyondsurviving #rest #relaxation #boilingpoint #healing #dissociation #withdrawal #connection #grounded #presence #healing #neuroscienceoftrauma #metoo #slowdown #stress #empowered #nervoussystemregulation #pendulation #levelsofdistress #outofcontrol #overwhelm #emotionalhealth #selfawareness

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

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November 10, 2021

Shelly: Healing the Mother Wound

In this episode, I reconnect with Shelly, who graduated from Beyond Surviving in 2016. We dive deep into the moment in her life when she told her mom about being abused and was punished instead of protected. We explore the importance of looking at and healing the mother wound so that we can move forward in our lives to develop compassionate and healthy relationships.

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/yAaQ0hY5zOk

#beyondsurviving #wherearetheynow #metoo #breakthesilence #yourstorymatters #healingthemotherwound #believesurvivors #strength #courage #breakinggenerationaltrauma #stewardship #childdevelopment #sexualabuse #forgiveness #movingon

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November 8, 2021

I am a wolf (AKA messy human)

I am a wolf (AKA messy human).

We are dynamic human beings. We are dark and light. We lash out. We cause harm and we have to clean it up when we do. But as a dear friend of mine recently said, "I am no longer in the business of beating myself up." And that means embracing all of the shades of who we are.

Get ready to hoooooowwwwwwwlllllll 🐺

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/Wd3m3z35Xxc

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #wholeness #derekdelgaudio #layers #selfcompassion #healing #empowered #journey #speakup #howl

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

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November 2, 2021

Have you ever felt like you were a mistake?

In a meditation about regret I did recently, I was asked to allow a moment to arise in which I felt regret - to not direct it, but just be open to what needed to show itself.

My thoughts traveled to, "I regret being born."

I almost popped out of the meditation! This was so out of left field for me.

As I continued sitting with this and allowing my mind to wander to where it needed to next, I was started thinking about the story I tell of being an "oops" baby. That my parents weren't planning for me. And how my dad would say he was going to give me up, but then I was born with all of this red hair, so he decided to keep me.

Now, ya know what's really wild - I actually don't know if that is a narrative I made up or if it actually occurred or if I overheard adults joking or it was some combination of all of those!

This is wild I know --- it always amazing me how memories can really shape us even when they are a blend of "real" and "imaginary" (check out In & Of Itself by Derek DelGaudio for a brilliant take on that!!).

But I do know I have held this story and idea of myself for as long as I can remember.

I've often share it as a joke ... but what I've really been doing without awareness is reinforcing the idea that 1.) I AM a MISTAKE and 2.) I was only kept because there was something about me that made me worth keeping and 3.) That I was kept also out of obligation, not real choice.

This combined with the sexual, physical, and verbal abuse ... has all added up to me seeking in my relationships someone who will CHOOSE me because they WANT to not because they HAVE to.

But ya know, I could never trust that their wanting would come just because I was lovable ... no, I had to be or do something in order for them to want to keep me (have red hair, be useful, be desirable).

Because I put my partner's choosing me as validation of my very right to exist, this became a huge trigger. Any sign of displeasure with me, any sign of not being chosen would set off deep deep fear ... in these states of fear, I do a variety of things ... and mostly do things I regret, that cause harm, that are meant to punish the person who by not choosing me is reminding me that I am a mistake and do not deserve to exist.

Whoa! While somewhat blindsided by this layer of insight into myself, I am so glad to have the tools I have to really be able to sit with the feelings and fears and curiosity and ick that arose and to be able to translate this awareness into action, change, new energy, new beingness.

Today I know I am not a mistake. I do not need anyone to choose me in order to validate my existence.

To always growing!

Watch : Dr. Bertice Berry speak on seeing beauty and unlearning what we've been told about who we are.

If you've ever felt like a mistake, can you connect to a moment or lived experience where you got that false idea from?

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November 1, 2021

I am powerful

"Every storm brings a fresh new beginning." -Cheryl Richardson

Hear about a moment in my 20s when I finally found my voice and stood up for myself even though I had no idea what I would do next!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/VTRLzOvYGNo

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #selfcare #voice #power #newbeginning

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