July 4, 2025

Feeling Stuck? Try This Creative Healing Practice

When healing from trauma, it can be easy to get stuck in our heads - trying to think our way through pain, solve it like a puzzle, or make it all make sense.

But healing isn’t just a thinking thing. It’s a whole-self thing. That’s where art and creativity come in.

Creative expression invites the parts of us that don’t have words to speak. The brush, the pen, the clay, the music-they become bridges between the inside world and the outside one. They help us tell the truth in color and texture and sound, without needing it to be polished or perfect.


✨ Why Art Helps

Trauma lives in the body and nervous system. It affects our sense of time, self, and safety. Artistic expression gently creates space for integration. It offers:

  • Access to emotions that may feel too overwhelming or confusing to talk about
  • A sense of control - you decide what to create, how, and when
  • Permission to play - something trauma often robs us of
  • An outlet for release - without needing to explain or justify


Even if you don’t consider yourself “creative,” this is not about masterpieces. It’s about process over product. Scribbles. Messes. Half-finished things. It all counts.


🎒 Ways to Try This Out

Here are a few low-pressure ways to bring creative healing into your week:

🎨 Intuitive painting or drawing – Set a timer for 10 minutes. Use whatever colors or shapes call to you. No plan. Just let your hands move.

✍️ Stream-of-consciousness writing – Set a timer and write without stopping. Let it all spill out. Burn it afterward if that feels freeing.

🖼️ Collage – Cut up magazines or print images and create a visual representation of what safety, power, or freedom look like to you.

🎶 Music and movement – Make a playlist that speaks to your current season. Let your body move gently to the rhythm.

🍃 Nature-based art – Use leaves, rocks, or sticks to build something outside. No pressure, just presence.



🌻 One More Thing…

Creative expression isn’t a replacement for trauma work - but it’s a beautiful support and companion.
Think of it like building a language with your soul - one where your wounds can be witnessed, honored, and gently reshaped into something new.

And yes, laughter counts as art. Dance counts as art. Journaling counts as art.

You, just as you are, count as an artist.

So this July, whether it’s doodling in the margins, scribbling in a journal, or dancing in your kitchen - let creativity be part of your healing toolkit.

🧠 Your body will thank you.
💛 Your heart will exhale.
🌅 And somewhere, without needing to try, you’ll remember - there’s life beyond surviving.



🎯 Try This Week

Set aside just 10 minutes and try one of these:

🖌️ Draw your current emotional state using only shapes and colors - no words.
📝 Write a letter you’ll never send to someone or something that hurt you.
🧩 Make a mini collage that reflects how you want to feel by the end of the year.
💃 Put on a song that moves you and let your body respond - no choreography, no rules.

👉 Then pause. What came up? How do you feel now?

You don’t have to be “good at art” to heal.
You just have to show up and create something true.



With you in it,



P.S. If you're ready to take the next step in healing from abuse and would like to explore enrolling in the Beyond Surviving program, start by applying for a Discover Your Genuine Self Session.

P.P.S. Find other inspiration and resources here: 

https://www.rachelgrantcoaching.com/resources/creative/





 

RESOURCE OF THE MONTH



Have you ever read a book that talked about a diary or a sketch book and wondered what it looked like? Come inside the mind of Amaris via her sketch book. Fill the pages with colors and life as you dive deeper into her mind and her happy place. Use the journal pages to keep track of your moods, answer questions to help you heal from your trauma.

Get your copy!




 

UPCOMING EVENTS


BY PARTICIPATING IN THIS FREE MASTERCLASS, YOU WILL:

✅ Understand how trauma reshapes the brain - and how to take back control

✅ Identify limiting beliefs that block your healing

✅ Apply simple, neurologically-backed strategies to shift focus, reduce PTSD symptoms, and create real change


You’ll leave feeling empowered, equipped, and energized with tools you can use right away.

Includes access to 7-Day Replay!


Register Here 





VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITY!

🌟 Calling All Changemakers! 🌟

Are you passionate about creating a world free from s*xual violence? Do you believe in the power of education, advocacy, and healing? The S*xual Assault Advocacy Network (SAAN) is looking for dedicated volunteers to help them further their mission of supporting survivors and building safer, more inclusive communities.

They are currently seeking support in these key areas:

📱 Social Media Management
📝 Newsletter Writing
💡 Fundraising & Community Engagement

Whether you're a skilled writer, a creative mind, or simply someone who wants to make a difference - your voice matters and your time counts.

At SAAN, they believe in empowerment, compassion, restorative justice, and inclusion. When you volunteer with them, you become part of a movement rooted in respect, consent, and dignity.

💌 Ready to get involved? 

Reach out to HuNia Bradly
at
thesaanteam@gmail.com to learn more.

Together, we can build a world where survivors are heard, supported, and empowered. 💜

Learn more about the organization here:

https://www.saancommunity.org/aboutsaan






COMING FEBRUARY 2026!!




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June 6, 2025

5 Summertime Nervous System Boosters

Summer has a way of whispering, “Hey... maybe take a breath?”

The days stretch longer, the pace slows down (sometimes), and the world smells like sunscreen and BBQ sauce. It’s the season of exhaling - if we let it be.

But for survivors - especially those in the LGBTQIA+ community - summer can bring a mixed bag. Pride Month can be a time of celebration, community, and glittery fabulousness… and it can stir up grief, anxiety, or a deep sense of “where do I fit in?”

So this month, I want to hand you a simple gift:

👉 Permission to soothe. Permission to slow. Permission to let your nervous system have its own little vacation.

Why Your Nervous System Deserves a Break (Yes, Even Yours)
When you’ve lived through trauma, your nervous system doesn’t always get the memo that it’s safe now. Even during “fun” moments - cookouts, crowds, Pride events, or even just sitting still - your body might be like,

“This is fine. Everything’s fine. Except it’s NOT. We’re all gonna die.”

Cue the tension, racing thoughts, irritability, and a strange urge to flee the farmer’s market because someone in the kale aisle smelled like your ex.

This isn’t because something’s wrong with you. It’s because your body got really, really good at protecting you. And now we’re helping it learn a new rhythm - one that doesn’t require constant emergency mode.

And lucky for us, summer is full of regulation-friendly options. Let’s take advantage.


Here are some gentle, body-loving ways to bring a little ease into your system this season!




🌿 Touch the Earth (Literally)
Put your bare feet in the grass, sand, or dirt. Hug a tree (no shame). Nature has this sneaky way of reminding your body that you’re here, now, and safe. Plus, it’s free therapy.

🍓 Savor Something Juicy
Pick a summer fruit - watermelon, berries, a popsicle that turns your tongue blue - and actually let yourself taste it. Sensory engagement is an amazing way to bring your body into the present.

🏳️‍🌈 Honor Pride in Your Own Way
There’s no “right” way to be queer or to celebrate Pride. If you want to be loud and fabulous - go for it! If you’d rather binge heartwarming queer rom-coms with your cat and a bowl of popcorn, that’s sacred too. Visibility is beautiful. So is rest.

❄️ Cool It Down
Use a cold cloth on the back of your neck. Keep peppermint oil nearby. Or try this: inhale through your nose, then exhale through pursed lips like you’re blowing out a birthday candle. Instant chill (literally and metaphorically).

🛑 Power Down to Power Up
Step away from your phone - yes, even TikTok - for just ten minutes. Lie down, breathe, stare at the ceiling fan like it’s giving a TED Talk. Give your nervous system a moment to do nothing, and it will thank you.

In Case You Needed This Reminder…

You don’t have to earn rest.
You don’t have to be happy all summer.
You don’t have to do Pride “right.”
You’re allowed to cry, to laugh, to dance, to nap - sometimes all in the same hour.

So this June, I hope you let your nervous system stretch out on a metaphorical beach chair with a good book and a cold drink. I hope you celebrate what you can, grieve what you need to, and find moments of unexpected joy.

Your healing is happening. Even now. Especially now.

And if no one’s told you yet today - I’m proud of you. 🌈


To healing!



P.S. If you're ready to take the next step in healing from abuse and would like to explore enrolling in the Beyond Surviving program, start by applying for a Discover Your Genuine Self Session.

 



 
 
 
RESOURCE OF THE MONTH
 
 Making the Invisible Visible:
Language and Legislation Through a Queer and Trans Lens 








UPCOMING EVENTS




in partnership with CPTSD Foundation


June 9th

BREAKING THE SILENCE



This month, we’ll explore the many reasons it’s so difficult to break the silence including the many negative messages we receive about ourselves and how to find our voice.


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COMING FEBRUARY 2026!!




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May 2, 2025

You are worth the fight!

8 years ago, I had the joy of connecting with Rebecca O'Donnell, author of Freak: The True Story of an Insecurity Addict, and I immediately adored her fierceness, authenticity and willingness to take on the tough corners of healing, bringing it all into the light!

We recently reconnected, and and I learned that she's just published a new book for kids (or adults who need to re-parent their inner children!). Hurt Magic is a beautifully illustrated and powerful story of facing down both internal and external bullies - check it out!

I'm so excited that Rebecca was up for sharing a bit more about herself, her journey, and her healing!

Without further ado:

RACHEL: Can you tell us a little bit about you!?

REBECCA: I'm an Artist/Writer in New York. I used to teach Art Therapy at an abused children's home. I was good at it because I was one of them. Physical, s*xual, mental and emotional abuse. I told the kids, "You have a manure pile of memories. Nothing you can do about that. Now, you can drown in the stink or turn it into compost and grow a garden. I wouldn't be nearly as good a teacher for you if I didn't have an idea of what you've been through." It's tough battling the self hatred and insecurity which comes with surviving these horrors but man, is it worth it. You're worth the fight.


RACHEL: What inspired you to start writing about/exploring this topic?

REBECCA: I was seeing a therapist to help me with my traumatic amnesia, and she suggested I start writing a journal. I hated it. So one day, I just started rambling into the computer. Before I knew it, I had 150 pages. Took a while for my therapist to talk me into letting her see it, haha! But then she told me I should expand it into a memoir. One of my readers asked me to combine both my art and writing into a children's book for abused and/or bullied kids. An abuse survivor herself, she hadn't found any children's books that inspired her. So I did. Helping others is a multi-faceted blessing. You help others who need it, and that sharing of your own kindness heals you as well. The way I see it, if you want to feel worthy, do something worthwhile. Even holding the door for someone or complimenting somebody is something worthwhile. Baby steps are still steps. 



RACHEL: What key insights or lessons have you learned through your experiences with this subject?

REBECCA: That there are far, far more of us than even I imagined. I don't think there are more predators and abusers than ever; I think people are speaking out more, so their filth is getting dragged into the light. And that is a magnificent, hope-filled miracle. Courage is contagious, and we're nobody's dirty little secret.


RACHEL: What challenges or misconceptions do you think people face when dealing with this topic, and how can they overcome them?

REBECCA: The biggest mindfrak our abusers do to us is to convince us that we're ruined, dirty, rancid, etc, because of what they did to us. I told my mom about my dad attacking me immediately after that first time. Her response was, "If you didn't flirt with him, he wouldn't do it." This is all too common. I was a child, Her child, and she blamed me for somehow causing it.

People stare at me like a deer in headlights nowadays when I tell them I was s*xually abused. Many get angry. "People don't talk about that in public." Why not? I was such a basket case for half my life because I believed that nonsense. I even tried to kill myself because that weight of feeling dirty, stupid and weak was crushing me.

Insecurity is my addiction, and around 15 years ago, I started treating it like a substance addiction. I did self love exercises (which I violently opposed for months when I first began) every day, stopped my abusive inner voice from slamming into me 24/7, quit telling body shaming jokes about myself to others (I was hilarious and could always get a laugh, which outwardly fed me and inwardly crushed me because they were laughing that I was fat and ugly) and every night I'd say, "Good night beautiful mind, good night beautiful body, good night beautiful spirit." Didn't believe a word of it for six months. I was that deeply addicted to hating myself. But persistent repetition is key. That's the only thing that's worked for me.

Keep at it, even as your inner voice screams "LIAR!!" at you. I love myself now, no longer blinded by shi*-colored glasses or rosy denial ones. Clear lens now, and clear eyed. But I'm an insecurity addict. If I stop doing my self love exercises, I can feel myself sliding back into the that self abusing cruelty I weirdly miss. That's how I know it's a behavioral addiction. Let me tell you, it's a lot of work, but becoming your own soulmate is astonishing. So go for it.


RACHEL:  Are there any common myths or misunderstandings about this topic that you'd like to address?

REBECCA:

"What were you wearing that set him off?

"Why didn't you just say no?"

"Why didn't you tell somebody?"

"Why didn't you fight?"

"You're no good in bed because you're so damaged."

"You're great in bed because you're so damaged."

"Why did you ever have kids? Statistically, you're going to abuse them too."

All these questions are abusive but usually stem from ignorance, not cruelty. Most of the world is blind. Recognize that truth. The way I see it, I wouldn't get mad at a blind person because they can't see me. So it's okay to educate people. One time, I did a lecture on the subject of incest and the damage it causes, and a group of people came up to talk to me afterwards. A man, obviously trying to make a joke, laughed, "Incest is best, a game the whole family can play!" I asked, "Do you play it with your daughter?" He attacked me. People had to pull him off. I talked to him later and it turned out he'd been abused as a kid, so he instantly saw red from my reply. If people have a complete freak out like that, there's usually a big hidden wound there. Don't take it personally.



RACHEL: What resources, tools, or next steps would you recommend for readers who want to dive deeper into this topic?

REBECCA: When I was first writing my memoir, I had to put things into chronological order, then gauge my age at each time. I looked at photos of myself and was truly startled by how little I was. I found that putting stuff into chronological order, no matter how hard it was to write it down (I puked, had panic attacks, flop sweated like a horse, woke up from nightmares), I had to do it for the book. I'd scrawl a couple sentences or paragraphs, then shove it in a drawer until I could bear to look at it again. It was a revelation. When I first wrote the words, I was super emotional, devastated, angry at myself for "letting it happen." But when I pulled those pages out again, it was a completely different feeling. I felt compassion for her. She was just a kid. I was just a kid. And that helped me begin to see the truth. I'm not a piece of shi*. I never was. It was always a lie.



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I hope you will take something for yourself today from Rebecca's story and wisdom! I know I did! :)


To the magic of healing!



P.S. If you're ready to take the next step in healing from abuse and would like to explore enrolling in the Beyond Surviving program, start by applying for a Discover Your Genuine Self Session.






Check out my interview with Rebecca from back in the day!



 
 
UPCOMING EVENTS



STARTS MAY 12th!







in partnership with CPTSD Foundation


May 12th

ANGER



As survivors of childhood abuse, we can have an enormous amount of anger inside us. Anger is a healthy and natural response to abuse and exploitation.






Get ready to unlock your inner confidence & embrace self-trust in this empowering masterclass designed to help you harness your instincts & navigate life's uncertainties with self-assurance.





COMING FEBRUARY 2026!!


Embark on a transformative journey designed for women seeking to reconnect with their bodies and embrace their sensuality. Set in the serene landscapes of Costa Rica, this immersive retreat offers a nurturing space to release shame, awaken desire, and rediscover self-love. 


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April 4, 2025

Who is the real threat?

I've been following Kristen Browde on TikTok for some time now and have found her to be so insightful and inspiring that I had to introduce you to her and the amazing advocacy work she is doing on many fronts.

In particular, I want to share with you this amazing website she's spearheaded:
Who's Making News for S*x Crimes Involving Children?, a research project that aggregates and analyzes news reports published about s*xual assaults on children in the United States, and is designed to be fully verifiable.

With April being Child Abuse Awareness & Prevention month, I couldn't pass up this moment to bring to the forefront a very important question: 

Who is the REAL threat?

There is a lot in our media these days about my community - the LGBTQ+ - and very specifically rhetoric around transgender people and drag queens posing a threat to children.

But I am a person who pays attention to stats and data to tell the story alongside the voices of those who are actually doing the work to fact check narratives about s*x crimes against children.

As said on the site, "The site contains a set of data and statistical analysis of that data, nothing more. The data, like the facts, don’t care about anyone’s feelings, or politics."

Without further ado:

RACHEL: Can you tell us a little bit about you!?

KRISTEN: It wasn’t the way I planned it. As I approach my 75th birthday, I’m President of the Florida Democratic Party’s LGBTQ+ Caucus, Vice President of the National Federation of Stonewall Democrats, live in downtown Miami, and, to my surprise, am followed by something like 425,000 people on TikTok. And what makes that even odder: law and politics are my second and third careers.

I come from the world of journalism, where I spent some 40+ years, the last 17 of which were at CBS News in New York, where I was the anchor assigned to the CBS News Bulletin Center. While at CBS I attended law school, founded my own law firm, became a pension fund trustee, had two children and moved from New York City to the suburb if Chappaqua, New York. But in 2016, in an appearance at New York City’s largest media and political charity event, the Inner Circle Dinner, when I came out as transgender, that’s when my current life really began.

[In other words, y'all - she's a badass!]


RACHEL: What inspired you to start writing about/exploring this topic?

KRISTEN: For years we’ve all heard the Republicans and other right wingers screaming about transgender people being “groomers” – a danger to children. They even started a phony organization they called gays against groomers – and though I suspected this was nonsense, I wanted to see if there was any data that could verify or debunk the right wing claims. It turned out there wasn’t. So I fashioned a study and ran it for more than a year, looking at the available reports of people who were arrested, charged or convicted of sexual assaults on children.

When I started reporting the results weekly on TikTok, it immediately went viral. People tried to attack it as a biased study, but I immediately made all the source data available and allowed anyone who could add a missing bit of data or demonstrate that someone had been acquitted or the charges dropped could get data removed. Lots of additional reports came in, but no one ever demonstrated even the slightest bias: if the report was documented, I included it in the database, no matter who it involved.


RACHEL: What key insights or lessons have you learned through your experiences with this subject?

KRISTEN: That the right wing narrative is nonsense. The data showed that on a per capita basis, during the study period (February 10, 2023 through May 23, 2024)  a child was

804 times more likely to be sexually assaulted by an ordained member of the clergy than by a transgender person
;

380 times more likely to be sexually assaulted by a police officer than by a transgender person and

142 times more likely to be sexually assaulted by a politician than by a transgender person.

And of the politicians, more than two thirds of those arrested, charged or convicted of sexually assaulting a child were Republicans.


RACHEL: What challenges or misconceptions do you think people face when dealing with this topic, and how can they overcome them?

KRISTEN: They listen to the nonsense Donald Trump, Elon Musk and that ilk spew. They need to look at the data, and recognize that this comes from Musk’s inability to be a good parent to his oldest child who is a happy, out, transgender woman.


RACHEL:  Are there any common myths or misunderstandings about this topic that you'd like to address?

KRISTEN: The whole project is an attempt to do just that. :)



RACHEL: What resources, tools, or next steps would you recommend for readers who want to dive deeper into this topic?

KRISTEN: The website is still available, along with the data. I’d hope that someone would fund deeper research into the topic – but it’s really time consuming to gather the data, and it’s an expensive – though not complicated – study.



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I am so grateful for the heart, soul, and sweat that Kristen and others have poured into this work - I think we can all appreciate the herculean effort!

If we are serious about addressing and preventing child abuse, then we must collectively and aggressively challenge the harmful narratives and highlight the true sources of risk to children and foster a more informed and compassionate conversation about child protection

If you're ready to learn more about the steps you can take to prevent & respond to child abuse,
please check out my course, The Empowered Parent.

 

Together we can protect our children from the real threats they face!



P.S. If you're ready to take the next step in healing from abuse and would like to explore enrolling in the Beyond Surviving program, start by applying for a Discover Your Genuine Self Session.







 
RESOURCE OF THE MONTH



Parenting to Prevent the Next Generation of #metoo Stories




UPCOMING EVENTS


For survivors of childhood abuse, shame can be one of the most pervasive feelings we carry well after the abuse has ended.

As a result of trauma, we come to believe that we are at fault or to blame for what has happened. This then transforms into a deeply rooted way of being that impacts our sense of self.

We might come to believe that we are unlovable because we were abused. We might come to believe that there is inherently something bad or wrong about who we are.

In other words, all of our judgments about "self" are derogatory or negative. Boy have we been there! And we can't wait to share with you what helped us put an end to the constant self-blame and judgment.






in partnership with CPTSD Foundation

April 14th

BOUNDARIES



Setting boundaries and assertiveness are both essential for survivors if we want to be treated with respect and improve our self-esteem. We'll explore the process of learning to set boundaries & be assertive.




March 7, 2025

Allow me to re-introduce myself 👋

Wow! In the last few months, this community has grown quite a bit! Whether you've been following me for a long time or you're new to the crew, I thought this might be a great time to "re-introduce" myself.

Some of you are familiar with my story and some of you are just getting to know me - either way, I wanted to share with you all this interview I did last September where I told my story in a brand new way through the lens of how I developed empathy and how that influences the work I do with my clients everyday.

Here's a little teaser:

"I was a happy kid – always laughing, always smiling. Below the surface, I was starting to feel like the odd kid out. By the time I was in kindergarten, my brother was 17 and my sister was 14. They were teenagers, and I was no longer a cute toddler who could gain their attention just by saying a new word. My world was getting smaller.

I had the bad haircut that traumatizes all children in first grade. I met the woman who would inspire me to become a teacher (or, at the very least, work with children), Mrs. Hendren, in second grade. I kicked butt as a goalie in. In third grade, I went to my first overnight camp, my brother joined the military, and my sister went to her senior prom and then quickly got out of dodge.

My cheeks were getting plumper – but I was still smiling! My character – what made me “me” – was forming. I loved to laugh and make other people laugh. But, below the surface, what we were feeling inside – my mom, dad, and I were suffering from “empty nest syndrome”. My granddad, my mother’s father, who had been living with us for a couple of years by that time, filled that empty space in our lives. I loved having my granddad there even though he was really, really old – he was in his early 90’s!! But, I have always been a nurturer, so I loved bringing him his breakfast in the morning and his snacks at night and holding our springy screen door open for him so he could go out and sit on the front porch swing.

Finally 10 years, my first double digit! I was in fourth grade! And, for all intents and purposes, I was a pretty normal kid.

My granddad was still living with us, and I was still on “screen-door” duty. One day, I was still glowing from having just turned 10, I was hangin’ out – watchin’ some cheesy 80’s TV, and I heard my granddad coming down the hall. I knew he was heading outside, so I hopped up, and went to the door. Usually, my granddad hung out by himself for a while then knocked when he was ready to come back in. This day was different.

When my granddad pulled my arm and dragged me with him to the porch swing, I didn’t think much of it. It was a nice day; I guess I thought he wanted some company.

That’s not what he wanted."


Read the full story (and see some of my baby pics!!) here:

https://boldjourney.com/meet-rachel-grant/


Thank you for taking the time to get to know me, and I truly enjoy being a resource and support to you in your healing journey!

The biggest thing I've learned is that trauma is not a life sentence, and I look forward to the opportunity to guide you to live Beyond Surviving!


With love!






 

 

P.S. If you're ready to take the next step in healing from abuse and would like to explore enrolling in the Beyond Surviving program, start by applying for a Discover Your Genuine Self Session.

 



 

RESOURCE OF THE MONTH

 
 
 

 


UPCOMING EVENTS





in partnership with CPTSD Foundation


March 10th

HEALING PROCESS



As survivors of childhood sexual abuse, healing is not linear - and yet, it is still a process!

This month, we explore the stages of healing and the best resources to access at each stage.



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The strategies I’m going to share in this class are practical, easy to use, and the most effective ways I know to break free from fear and anxiety. They immediately shift you from feeling stuck and immobilized to energized and ready to take life on.
 
 

 

 

 

 

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