I am still.

"I understand that there are times to move and times to be still."

But why is being still often times triggering for survivors of abuse?

Listen to find out!

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/Ka3cad8gCHM

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #stillness #movement #happiness #intuition #contemplate #restisaright #thenapministry #understanding #joy #ease #present

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Why am I crying over a plant!?

Why am I crying over a plant!?

So the other day, my guy was harvesting some plants from "my" garden for his clients ... and as he snatched a handful, I burst into tears!!!

I was as surprised as he was by my reaction that day ... and this led to an interesting moment of checking in with myself about an old wound around, "I don't have a say and I don't like that!"

I share how I worked through that moment of activation and also share some insights about why my brain did what it did based on what Dan Siegel teaches in his book "Mindsight".

 

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/YPxhidGzfcQ

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #neuroscience #dansiegel #activation #fear #nervoussytem #gardening #attachment #healing #grace #selfcompassion

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

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Lessons from a steamer (strainer?)

Hear about a recent conversation I had with a friend who admonished me for using a steamer for a strainer and the deep learning and aha's we gained from exploring how and why doing things the "right" way or how we are "supposed" to often limits us, blocks intuition, and shuts down creativity and self-expression! 

 

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/Do0OeBOGNR4

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #nosuchthingasperfect #doityourway #selfcare #selfexpression #healing #metoo #silly #laughter #lifelessons #creativity #intuition

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

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I am bold!

I speak my truth in a loving way. my courage to communicate my needs is POWERED by my LOVE for MYSELF and OTHERS. 

What truth do you need to speak today? 

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/96cTakR8CIc

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #beyondsurviving #bold #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #courage #honestyisthebestpolicy #loving #kindness #giftofhonesty #authenticity #healing #communication #honoryourtruth

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

Please Send My Copy Now

...the time I choked my mom in a fit of rage

I was 15 years old and I had just grabbed my mother from behind, wrapping my arm around her throat as my father stared on in horror. 

I was raging ... again.

Once my father snapped out of the shock, he grabbed me with enough force (but also gentleness) to get me off of my mom. Immediately I was flooded with shame. It was as if awakening from a dream - what had I just done? How could I? What's wrong with me?

Ask me today what had set me off, what we were fighting about --- couldn't tell ya.

What I can tap into now, looking back at moments like these, is that I would often feel so immediately flooded with this intense feeling that would spread throughout my entire body, my face would get hot, and all I wanted was to scream at the top of my lungs.

I remember the deep confusion I felt because a lot of the time I was this jovial, wise cracking, easy going person. But this switch would flip - and when it did - I felt at the mercy of whatever "monster" was there, always lurking underneath.

When I look back at those teen years now, I understand my rage and behavior. I have deep compassion for that young girl who didn't know any other way to say, "See me! Help me! I'm hurting."

Finding my peace and learning to trust my anger while also knowing how to slow down, keep from tipping over into rage has been some of the deepest (and hardest) healing work I've done. 

A big part of that was understanding, as Ruth King calls it, my "rage inheritance" - the "pattern or theme that has been passed down to you to heal."

Read that last bit again!

"...that has been passed down to you to heal."

Whoa! That really struck home for me, because while I understood that the abuse has set up some anger/rage DNA for me - I also began to think about the ways in which anger had been modeled for me and even passed on to me.

King goes on to say, the purpose of many of the exercises in her book is so you can "discern the essence of your rage inheritance - the unresolved rage of your forbearers that you still carry-and to begin to break patterns of generational suffering."

I'm sometimes struck by how my grandfather's abusive behavior was perhaps but an echo of the trauma he experienced, and his parents, and their parents....not to let him off the hook of course -- but it inspires me to imagine that these "gremlins" that have been traveling along my family's DNA for so long are being weeded out and eradicated as I heal and as I embrace anger in healthy ways!


To breaking chains!

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Watch: Interview with Anthony Mossburg who shares about his journey with finding and freeing anger, which ultimately helped him discover his personal truth in his music career.  


What stops you from giving yourself permission to express rage?

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BOOK OF THE MONTH

Self-help authors rarely distinguish between anger and rage, but Ruth King has devoted her career to exploring the subtle varieties of this emotion. In Healing Rage, she gives all readers access to her pioneering, breakthrough program, which has already changed thousands of lives through workshops nationwide.

READ MORE HERE!

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I am stronger today...

In seasons of transition, our capacity to remain grounded is challenged, and I know personally that it can feel sometimes like you are just stuck. Yet as I've learned to really sit in the discomfort, I've found the inner wisdom that whispers. "You've got this. You can handle this. You will be okay." It's in the moments of struggle that I am reminded that I AM STRONGER today and I celebrate that. 

What's one thing you are stronger than yesterday in?

WATCH HERE: https://youtu.be/FEZcmZ3EOJw

Continue the conversation! Join us in the Healing from Sexual Abuse group on Facebook, a safe space for survivors to come together to receive support and guidance. bit.ly/healingfromsexualabuse

#coachrachelsays #mondaymini #strength #resilience #metoo #wisdom #sitwiththediscomfort #yougotthis #healingwarrior #traumainformed #itwillbeokay #marathon #celebrate #grounded #grateful

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Discover the 3 Stages of Recovery from Childhood Abuse

The road to recovery is much easier when you know what stage you're in and what to do next. Find out exactly where you are in your healing journey and what kind of support you need right now. 

This FREE 9-page guide will give you the answers you've been seeking.

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