This week, I bring to you Contessa Akin, bad ass beyond survivor, healer, and bright light in this world. She is going to share with you some of her favorite tips and skills for healing. In this post, she explores how perfectionism and the fear of failure block "brave-ability".
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When we experience abuse, it can be difficult to find the motivation to "want to."
The truth is, we don't control what emotions come up for us, but we absolutely can choose what emotions we want to live with.
In this video, I give you 4 Rebel F words that will help you be brave even if you don't "feel" like it!
Take a stand, use your voice, share your story!
Continue the conversation with fellow Rebels at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com.
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“Do you have a plan?" asked the lady on the other end of the phone. Sitting on the couch, my babies were climbing up my legs, smiling, patting me; I was gazing straight ahead, I was so numbed out that I didn’t even realize my husband called a suicide crisis hotline for me.
Up to that moment I had been a victim. I experienced a wide range of abuse in my entire life. At six years old, I was raped by a stranger, a rape that was facilitated by my biological mother and where my half-sister guarded the door. I was betrayed by the very people who were supposed to protect me and hold me dear.
The initial abuse led to the next abuse and the abuse after that. I attached myself to guilt instead of anger, shame instead of resentment, responsibility instead of blame. The world had taught me no one could be trusted, no one could be counted on, and no one would be there for me when I needed them most.
From a young age, I had been in counseling, attended group meetings, read the self-help books, been called to the school's counselor office, joined the military, moved around the world. None of that made any difference. I was still in pain and super frustrated.
In that instant of hearing that questions, “Do you have a plan?” I had a thought that occurred that wasn’t about just me and my pain, I considered my kids just might get hurt. Killing myself would be betraying them just my biological mother betrayed me. I knew the pain that they would have to endure. So, I made a decision. I was going to be honest with myself. Being honest was me opening the roadmap to a new possibility.
You can connect with me in our private Facebook Group at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com
Contessa Akin is an Intuitive Life Coach, World Class Rebel, Speaker, and Author
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