How to get started on anything...

This week, Contessa Akin shares one of her favorite tools for accessing empowered feelings so you can get into action!

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Getting started on anything can feel heavy, impossible, too big. This is all a normal response to trauma, you are not alone. I've said it before and it is worth repeating, we don't get to control what emotions come up for us, but we absolutely can choose what emotions to live with.

In this video, from the heart, a fantastic way to bring your past successes to today and that is all that you need to get going. One side note here, no matter how hard or cruel life has been to you, you do in fact have the success that you can use to help you out today!

https://youtu.be/xU1smrnHwUU

Put it to the test, watch the video and decide what your next smallest step is, follow through and decide for yourself.

Take a stand, use your voice, share your story!

Continue the conversation with fellow Rebels at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com.

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“Do you have a plan?" asked the lady on the other end of the phone. Sitting on the couch, my babies were climbing up my legs, smiling, patting me; I was gazing straight ahead, I was so numbed out that I didn’t even realize my husband called a suicide crisis hotline for me.

Up to that moment I had been a victim. I experienced a wide range of abuse in my entire life. At six years old, I was raped by a stranger, a rape that was facilitated by my biological mother and where my half-sister guarded the door. I was betrayed by the very people who were supposed to protect me and hold me dear.

The initial abuse led to the next abuse and the abuse after that. I attached myself to guilt instead of anger, shame instead of resentment, responsibility instead of blame. The world had taught me no one could be trusted, no one could be counted on, and no one would be there for me when I needed them most.

From a young age, I had been in counseling, attended group meetings, read the self-help books, been called to the school's counselor office, joined the military, moved around the world. None of that made any difference. I was still in pain and super frustrated.

In that instant of hearing that questions, “Do you have a plan?” I had a thought that occurred that wasn’t about just me and my pain, I considered my kids just might get hurt. Killing myself would be betraying them just my biological mother betrayed me. I knew the pain that they would have to endure.  So, I made a decision. I was going to be honest with myself. Being honest was me opening the roadmap to a new possibility.

You can connect with me in our private Facebook Group at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com

Contessa Akin is an Intuitive Life Coach, World Class Rebel, Speaker, and Author

Worry....What to do about it!

This week, Contessa Akin shares one of her favorite tools for how to "take charge" of the worrying by becoming more intentional and thoughtful about when we worry!

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Are you like me and have 20 tabs open on your computer? On your phone? 

Our brain operates in a similar fashion when you worry, you are opening up a new tab.

Counter-intuitively to what we think, the tool in this video is all about worrying ON purpose! That's right, we are going to worry.

https://youtu.be/e9wranKW8sc  

Take a stand, use your voice, share your story!

Continue the conversation with fellow Rebels at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com.

Read Part 4: How to get started on anything!

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“Do you have a plan?" asked the lady on the other end of the phone. Sitting on the couch, my babies were climbing up my legs, smiling, patting me; I was gazing straight ahead, I was so numbed out that I didn’t even realize my husband called a suicide crisis hotline for me.

Up to that moment I had been a victim. I experienced a wide range of abuse in my entire life. At six years old, I was raped by a stranger, a rape that was facilitated by my biological mother and where my half-sister guarded the door. I was betrayed by the very people who were supposed to protect me and hold me dear.

The initial abuse led to the next abuse and the abuse after that. I attached myself to guilt instead of anger, shame instead of resentment, responsibility instead of blame. The world had taught me no one could be trusted, no one could be counted on, and no one would be there for me when I needed them most.

From a young age, I had been in counseling, attended group meetings, read the self-help books, been called to the school's counselor office, joined the military, moved around the world. None of that made any difference. I was still in pain and super frustrated.

In that instant of hearing that questions, “Do you have a plan?” I had a thought that occurred that wasn’t about just me and my pain, I considered my kids just might get hurt. Killing myself would be betraying them just my biological mother betrayed me. I knew the pain that they would have to endure.  So, I made a decision. I was going to be honest with myself. Being honest was me opening the roadmap to a new possibility.

You can connect with me in our private Facebook Group at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com

Contessa Akin is an Intuitive Life Coach, World Class Rebel, Speaker, and Author

How to Build Trust with Yourself

This week, Contessa Akin shares her perspective on how we can learn to trust ourselves, which is a stepping stone to being able to trust others.

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Trust is one of the first things to go when you've been abused. Not trusting others really comes back to not trusting ourselves.  

In this video, I give you a simple two step process for building trust with yourself, even when you think you might be the most trusting person on planet earth....like I did.

https://youtu.be/8HTALby2-4I

You CAN trust yourself! Trust yourself to keep you safe, to make good decisions, to follow through!

Take a stand, use your voice, share your story!

Continue the conversation with fellow Rebels at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com.

Read Part 3: Worry...What to do about it!

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“Do you have a plan?" asked the lady on the other end of the phone. Sitting on the couch, my babies were climbing up my legs, smiling, patting me; I was gazing straight ahead, I was so numbed out that I didn’t even realize my husband called a suicide crisis hotline for me.

Up to that moment I had been a victim. I experienced a wide range of abuse in my entire life. At six years old, I was raped by a stranger, a rape that was facilitated by my biological mother and where my half-sister guarded the door. I was betrayed by the very people who were supposed to protect me and hold me dear.

The initial abuse led to the next abuse and the abuse after that. I attached myself to guilt instead of anger, shame instead of resentment, responsibility instead of blame. The world had taught me no one could be trusted, no one could be counted on, and no one would be there for me when I needed them most.

From a young age, I had been in counseling, attended group meetings, read the self-help books, been called to the school's counselor office, joined the military, moved around the world. None of that made any difference. I was still in pain and super frustrated.

In that instant of hearing that questions, “Do you have a plan?” I had a thought that occurred that wasn’t about just me and my pain, I considered my kids just might get hurt. Killing myself would be betraying them just my biological mother betrayed me. I knew the pain that they would have to endure.  So, I made a decision. I was going to be honest with myself. Being honest was me opening the roadmap to a new possibility.

You can connect with me in our private Facebook Group at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com

Contessa Akin is an Intuitive Life Coach, World Class Rebel, Speaker, and Author

How to Be Brave When You Don't Feel Like It!

This week, I bring to you Contessa Akin, bad ass beyond survivor, healer, and bright light in this world. She is going to share with you some of her favorite tips and skills for healing. In this post, she explores how perfectionism and the fear of failure block "brave-ability".

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When we experience abuse, it can be difficult to find the motivation to "want to." 

The truth is, we don't control what emotions come up for us, but we absolutely can choose what emotions we want to live with.  

In this video, I give you 4 Rebel F words that will help you be brave even if you don't "feel" like it!

https://youtu.be/Dw88PRrZLi8

Take a stand, use your voice, share your story!

Continue the conversation with fellow Rebels at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com.

Read Part 2: How to Build Trust with Yourself

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“Do you have a plan?" asked the lady on the other end of the phone. Sitting on the couch, my babies were climbing up my legs, smiling, patting me; I was gazing straight ahead, I was so numbed out that I didn’t even realize my husband called a suicide crisis hotline for me.

Up to that moment I had been a victim. I experienced a wide range of abuse in my entire life. At six years old, I was raped by a stranger, a rape that was facilitated by my biological mother and where my half-sister guarded the door. I was betrayed by the very people who were supposed to protect me and hold me dear.

The initial abuse led to the next abuse and the abuse after that. I attached myself to guilt instead of anger, shame instead of resentment, responsibility instead of blame. The world had taught me no one could be trusted, no one could be counted on, and no one would be there for me when I needed them most.

From a young age, I had been in counseling, attended group meetings, read the self-help books, been called to the school's counselor office, joined the military, moved around the world. None of that made any difference. I was still in pain and super frustrated.

In that instant of hearing that questions, “Do you have a plan?” I had a thought that occurred that wasn’t about just me and my pain, I considered my kids just might get hurt. Killing myself would be betraying them just my biological mother betrayed me. I knew the pain that they would have to endure.  So, I made a decision. I was going to be honest with myself. Being honest was me opening the roadmap to a new possibility.

You can connect with me in our private Facebook Group at www.RebelRisingFBGroup.com

Contessa Akin is an Intuitive Life Coach, World Class Rebel, Speaker, and Author