January 30, 2014

Out of the Darkness: The Trauma Roadmap

In part four of our six week series on sex, relationships, and healing sexual trauma with Ben and Jen Rode and Valerie Taormina, Valerie will share with you a profoundly eye-opening concept: how our trauma can also be our roadmap to healing.


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Today we are turning lemons into lemonade by transforming shame and trauma into a map to help you reveal your life’s purpose. - YES!  Here’s the deal, the method I’m about to share is just an exercise, a hypothesis, it isn’t truth or the only way.  However, it is something that I formulated from personal experience after facing my shame and discovering my life’s work.  Insofar that I’ve applied it with clients and friends, it seems to work. I’ll let you be the judge. Here we go. . .

Let’s first take a look at trauma in the sexual context.  The reason we are starting here is because it seems to be an area where shame hides out, as it makes us so embarrassed or is so taboo that we store it away and throw away the key.  In order to get a complete look at your shame history it is important to take an even deeper look within your sexual history.

Often when we think of sexual trauma we think of extreme cases like rape or molestation.  These situations are definitely in the “trauma” category. However, they do not represent the complete trauma spectrum.  I prefer to define sexual trauma as any experience that takes you out of your body, and/or impacts your self worth.  Later in this article you will be examining your shame history, so when you do so, make sure to take extra time to explore it within the context of that definition. Here are some examples of traumatic events that tend to be overlooked:

  1. Body image/beliefs about beauty
  2. Religious and spiritual views on sex
  3. Views on masturbation
  4. Gender, ethnic, and socio-economic stereotypes
  5. Pregnancy, childbirth, abortion, miscarriage, inability or difficulty having children (don’t overlook the impact on men)
  6. Unwanted or painful sexual touch
  7. Sexual performance
  8. Sexual desire and guilt associated around what is “normal”
  9. Infidelity
  10. Mommy/Daddy relationships
  
Now that we’ve gone a bit deeper into sexual trauma, take a step back and read the rest of this article with your entire trauma history in mind.

I recently came across this article that presents 10 ways you know you’ve found your calling, written by holistic health practitioner Lissa Rankin, MD. Here’s the first bullet point, and the point that is relevant for our conversation:

You’ll realize you’ve been training for your calling since the moment you were born.  Even the gritty things, the disappointments, the regrets, and the screw ups, they were all prepping you for what you’re now being called to do.  You’ll realize that the divorce, the bankruptcy, the death of your loved one, the failure, the rejection--it was just school, teaching you the lessons your soul needed to learn in order to be who you’re being called to be.

For the entire list click here

This article is aimed to help people confirm whether they are on the right path, and it acknowledges in the first step that the negative experiences in your life and the lessons they teach you, when reflecting back after finding your “calling”, will connect together in some way and point to where you ended up.   

What I’m proposing is reverse engineering this concept, so instead of mapping things out to confirm you’re in the right place, what if you mapped things out to find the right direction? In other words, if you aren’t sure where to go, look at the negative aspects of your history (your shame and trauma), and that can give you the way forward!

This exercise helps you identify your core wounds (the traumatic and shameful events that made the largest impression) and how you can use these to find ways you can contribute to the world that will provide you the greatest amount of satisfaction.  I personally believe that your most satisfying contribution to the world is what your “calling” really is.  Understanding our shame and integrating this part of ourselves, typically thought of as our dark side, is precisely the thing that can catapult us into our greatest light.  

If you have not done so already, I highly recommend pulling out a pen and paper. 

Creating your Map:

1.)    Make a list of events in your life that you consider traumatic, embarrassing, or shameful.  Make sure to look at specifics such as tripping and falling on your face and getting your braces stuck to your lips right as the school bus drove by (one of the super fun highlights from my childhood), to something broader like being the school nerd or witnessing a nasty divorce between your parents.

2.)    Look at the list and notice which experiences cause the greatest sense of uneasiness in your body.  Instead of rationalizing this self-criticism in your brain, really allow yourself to meditate and feel within. Circle your top 3 reactions and label them from 1-3 (1 being your greatest reaction).  These events can be considered your core wounds. *Try not to choose based on how you think you should feel and instead by what your body and your intuition tells you. Your core wound may not be the big shiny traumatic event, it could be less obvious*

3.)    Ask yourself this question for each of your top choices: What would be the healing needed in this situation to makes things better?  Here are some examples to get you thinking:

Core wound
Healing needed
Being the "fat kid"
Learning how to be healthy, loving yourself despite the ways others see you
Having a challenging learning disability
Understanding your other talents, learning how to function with your disability, developing self confidence or social skills
Growing up in an abusive household
Feeling safe and learning how to trust, feeling empowered in your life

4.)    Now ask yourself this question: What things could I do for the world that would provide this healing to others?  The answers to this question are where to look for your life’s work.  Perhaps some of you will be able to see things you can do that provide healing for a number of your core wounds, this I like to call the combined effect.    

Healing needed
Things you could do
Learning how to be healthy, loving yourself despite the ways others see you
Health related field, childhood obesity, prevention, health research, personal trainer, counselor, teacher
Understanding your other talents, learning how to function with your disability, developing self confidence or social skills
Teacher, Therapist, Coach, something that teaches others what you do know, donor/board member to program that helps people with this challenge
Feeling safe and learning how to trust, feeling empowered in your life
Mentor, family therapist, coach, counselor


Now that I’ve shared with you the exercise, I’ll share a little about me to give you a real life example of how this works.  My number one core wound is around my father.  He was in and out of prison most of my childhood.  I always saw incredible potential in him but nothing I tried to do (or anyone tried to do) seemed to help him straighten up his life.  I experienced most of my childhood watching an incredibly charismatic, intelligent, and talented man take horrible care of himself and make terribly bad choices.  It’s no wonder that my life’s work is helping people (a large portion of whom are men) to develop a deep sense of self love and help them awaken to their extraordinary potential.  Each time I help a client it heals a part of me and causes a unique sense of satisfaction that nothing else can provide.

Finding your purpose doesn’t mean you need to completely change direction and quit everything to follow this path.  Additionally, you may find that you have more than one purpose.  However, finding ways to integrate this type of contribution into your life will be very beneficial.  So if you’re a financial analyst and you realized in this exercise that contributing to teens to help build self confidence might be one of your “callings,” find a way to become a mentor on the side, or find an organization that helps youth and serve on the board, or give a donation.  In fact, I suggest trying to find a way to contribute today.  Loving both the light sides and the dark sides of our history is part of forming a complete love relationship with ourselves, the most important relationship we have. 


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Valerie Taormina is a certified somatic sex educator currently working in the greater Bay Area. Her focus is on expanding male sexuality and assisting men with overcoming sexual trauma and emotional blockage, but her essential purpose is to help both men and women develop a deep level of self love and fulfillment. She helps individuals from all backgrounds fall deeply in love with themselves, and reconnect with their bodies so that they might create their purpose, and live a life filled with sexual, intellectual, and emotional satisfaction. She does this through physical and energy related work, with the belief that sexual enlightenment can open up multiple pathways to lasting gratification in one’s life.









January 21, 2014

Beyond the Iron Facade and Into the Male Heart

Here is part three of our six week series on sex, relationships, and healing sexual trauma with Ben and Jen Rode and Valerie Taormina. This week we meet Valerie, certified somatic sex educator, colleague, and all around amazing woman! In this post, Valerie shifts our attention to the impact of sexual abuse on men and six things she's learned about male sexuality through her work.




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While there are so many things I want to contribute to this blog series, I just couldn’t move forward without first addressing something that I feel is horribly misunderstood and which is the source of optimism and hope in my life: the view inside the male heart.

In Ben’s first blog post, he opened by providing statistics about female sexual abuse.  Now, in Ben’s case discussing female sexual abuse is very relevant because his Explosive Sexual Healing technique is a radically powerful way to help women reclaim their bodies after sexual trauma.  However, there is another side to sexual abuse that is rarely explored, privately or publicly.  In fact, with the exception of the Catholic Church and priest obsession, there is little mention of male sexual abuse in the media.  When cases of male sexual abuse are mentioned, they are often depicted as rare outlier events that are strange and unusual.  For example, take the rare case of the female high school teacher and the captain of the football team -- even in these cases the male is often framed as “sort of cool” or “a stud” to score his teacher.  These views are insanely harmful and inaccurate.  In fact, here’s an even bolder statement: these views are keeping women from getting the men they want.

In my practice one of my specialty areas is working with highly functioning men.  Many of my clients are top entrepreneurs, CEO’s, investors, et cetera.  These men manage lots of people, lots of money, have a ton of influence, and many of them are slightly miserable.  Often these men come to me confused; they don’t actually know why they are seeking help except they have an intuitive feeling that something is blocking them in their sexuality and their ability to connect with others.  If any of you have seen The Wolf of Wall Street and can remember Leo’s character Jordan Belfort, then you have met a few of my clients.  Okay, I’m exaggerating a little, but only a little (however Jordan definitely could use the treatment from a sexologist).  

Anyways, what I want to say is that these men (and I’m almost willing to say all of these “type” of men) suffer from blocked hearts.  While I’m speaking of blocked hearts metaphorically it isn’t too surprising that men in this category tend to have higher rates of heart disease.  Now, each case is special to each man (and for confidentiality reasons I can’t discuss any specific case) but what I would like to share with you is some themes that are revealing themselves that I think everyone should know.  Here they are in no specific order:

1. Male sexual abuse isn’t honored

60% of my male clients have reported losing their virginity to girls/women four years or more older than them.  Out of these men, 50% report their first time being with women eight years or more older.  In other words, 30% of my male clients reported statutory rape.  What’s worse, most of these men expressed feelings of shame and guilt and low sexual satisfaction thereafter with any partner.  What might be the impact of a potential large proportion of our male population hiding sexual coercion?  What might be the impact of a large proportion of women sexually coercing boys?  Now, what’s the impact of stories like "the jock and the teacher” being expressed in the media? 

2. They want to please you, and the inability to do so can cause trauma

Often masculinity is portrayed in the media as something selfish.  We hear women talk about men jack-hammering women or just getting themselves off.  Sure, this happens but usually it’s a result of a man feeling completely resigned in his ability to please the female body, not because he doesn’t want to.  Guess what ladies: men know when you’re faking it.  When I say they “know” I’m not necessarily saying they consciously know but subconsciously they know. Their body knows and it leaves them less satisfied (and you too).  95% of men I work with express a deep and profound desire to provide pleasure to women.  They want to give you the mind-blowing orgasm you dream of.  What’s getting in the way of everyone getting what they want?  Why is this so hard?

3. Men can, and often do, experience physical pain during sex

What feels good to each man is different to each man, as much so as for women.  80% of my male clients have reported being touched in a memorably negative way.  In the same way that women report men “putting it in” without lubrication, many men report painful experiences where women are thoughtless in their touch.  Learning your male partners body and what he likes is just as important as the contrary.  In doing so, I guarantee your sex life will improve.  What are your opinions of the male body?  How might this have affected experiences in your past?

4. Penis size/body image affect men more than we want to believe

Now, I’m not going to say that the pressures put on women in regards to beauty aren’t awful, but I would like to point out that men suffer too and this affects their sexuality.  Men also suffer from the penis size phobia.  Here is something I want all of you to know: the vaginal shape, size, depth, and sensitivity are just as varied as the penis.  Yup, that’s right, there is literally a “best fit” for everyone.  Our societal fascination with the “Dirk Digglers” of the world are traumatizing our men and possibly keeping some of you from the penises that feel the best to your body.

5. The pressure on men to avoid vulnerability causes trauma

I have the privilege of being allowed inside the sacred space of men and women.  The trend I am seeing is not that men are less sensitive, but instead that they are quicker to harden their sensitivity.  Women seem to be more resilient; their hearts close down from consecutive trauma, whereas men tend to close down after their first confrontation with emotion.  We teach our men not to feel.  To be a man is to be tough, to be without emotion.  So what happens when a man first feels emotion?  Well, he goes numb. It’s an extraordinarily effective survival strategy.  Underneath this iron fa├žade is an incredibly open, communicative, and loving heart. 

6. Men also need to feel safe

Often we talk about making women feel safe in order for them to open up sexually and emotionally.  Now, while this may be true, what isn’t fully addressed is the need for men to feel safe.  The reasons for this need are different between the sexes.  As mentioned in #5, the male underbelly is quite a vulnerable place, but it is also a beautiful one.  To help a man overcome his trauma and come into his sexual potential his masculinity must not be in jeopardy.  In my work with couples I help women learn how to do this.  What ways might you be able to make your partner feel safe? 

If you are a woman reading this I hope this has offered you some inspiring insight that can help you see men in a new light.  If you are a man reading this, I hope this has given you a sense of relief and perhaps the permission to examine your own trauma and sexual self. 

I am so excited for the next two blogs.  Without giving it away, I will be providing a treasure map of sorts and some tips to discovering one of your greatest loves.  As mentioned previously, the amazing Ben Rode will be concluding our series by providing tips on how to readjust your compass to get what you want.


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Valerie Taormina is a certified somatic sex educator currently working in the greater Bay Area. Her focus is on expanding male sexuality and assisting men with overcoming sexual trauma and emotional blockage, but her essential purpose is to help both men and women develop a deep level of self love and fulfillment. She helps individuals from all backgrounds fall deeply in love with themselves, and reconnect with their bodies so that they might create their purpose, and live a life filled with sexual, intellectual, and emotional satisfaction. She does this through physical and energy related work, with the belief that sexual enlightenment can open up multiple pathways to lasting gratification in one’s life.









January 14, 2014

3 Exercises to Release Sexual Trauma & Reclaim Your Body

Here is part two of our six week series on sex, relationships, and healing sexual trauma with Ben and Jen Rode and Valerie Taormina.In the last article, we talked about how rampant sexual trauma is, and about how society in general is just plain awkward about sexuality. We also talked about why shifting the conversation from one of awkwardness to one of total and complete ownership will give all of us our power back. Today we’re going to be talking about how to clear shame and trauma from our body so we can begin the journey to stepping into our power and having the impact we were meant to have in the world.


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Some of this stuff can be done on your own, but some will require a lover with some mastery in space holding. Having a husband, boyfriend or lover help work through any kind of trauma is extremely difficult because he’s emotionally invested (and rightly so) and it’s much easier to take things personally, and therefore get triggered. Also, she already has her story about who he is (and who she is), and he has his story about who she is (and who he is). Both parties start the work with preconceived ideas about the way the story is going to go based on information from the past, so it doesn’t leave a whole lot of room for new actions or outcomes. Let me give you an example.

I married Jen a month after we met, and we started healing her sexual abuse almost immediately. As highly trained as I am, it took seven tries over the period of a couple months to actually have a breakthrough because we kept getting in our own way and blaming the other person. I was getting frustrated that she wasn’t listening to me or giving it her full effort, and she was getting triggered at me for pointing out the very things that needed to shift and then getting triggered when she would get triggered. It was a circus. My advice to the men: Be very VERY patient, and take NOTHING personally, even when you really want to. My advice to the women: Be very VERY patient, and take NOTHING personally, even when you really want to.

The first thing we always do when we get clients on the massage table is walk them through something we call “The Stop Technique”, where every 5-10 minutes or so, she says “Stop.” Then we stop, completely disconnecting. She gets a sense of what it feels like to have said “stop” and have had it be heard and respected. 

Then, after sitting with it for a little bit, she finds the desire within herself and asks her lover to begin again. Most people’s natural instinct is to say something like, “Ok, you can start again,” but that implies that this is for someone other than herself, and that she is merely allowing it. We want her to be in a place where she is comfortable enough commanding it. It should sound like, “I want you to continue your massage,” or “Please continue where you left off.” 

The stop technique can be used with a lover during foreplay and sex as a way for her to reclaim her power and her pleasure. I know it seems odd to think about telling your lover to “STOP,” I mean, you’ve been married forever and it’s obvious that she wants to be touched, right? Well, yes. AND, this will be the difference between her “allowing” the experience and her actively participating in it on a different level. 

When she was sexually abused in her past, all she could do was allow the experience, and that becomes a pattern. Don’t be surprised if she a) says she doesn’t want to or need to say “stop,” b) forgets to say “stop” altogether, or c) breaks down into tears once she tries it. Saying “stop” can be extremely difficult for someone who has been conditioned to think that her body isn’t hers, and actually asking for pleasure can be extremely difficult for Everyone in this society. Keep practicing this one until you’ve mastered it!

Peter Levine, creator of the Somatic Experiencing program and author of, “Waking the Tiger” and several other books on trauma and sexual abuse defines a process called the Threat Response Cycle. He talks about how our instinct is to go into fight or flight when a threat presents itself, and if we can’t do either of those (as is often the case in early childhood sexual abuse), we go into the freeze response. The freeze response is what traps the trauma in our body, and becomes the pattern. If the person goes into fight or flight, it gives the Threat Response Cycle the opportunity to complete, and therefore return to a normal relaxed state of functioning in the world. If the body goes into the freeze response, the cycle doesn’t have the opportunity to complete itself, so the body is constantly in a heightened or lowered state of awareness.
credit: Peter Levine

A few signs this may be the case are: “numb” body or genitals, feeling “frozen” under perceived pressure or pleasure, or inability to connect deeply with oneself or others. In our sessions, a client will inevitably go into the freeze response and will simply not want to move or not be able to move. This is actually a great sign because it means she can now complete the cycle and be done with it forever. She does this by feeling the part of her body that feels the safest and the least stuck, and she allows that feeling to spread throughout her body, moving whatever she can. The goal is to eventually be in a full on temper tantrum screaming fit with legs and arms flailing uncontrollably. We have a formal term for this: “Losing your shit.” 

You know you’ve completely rid yourself of any remnants of the freeze response when there is absolutely nothing holding you back in your body or your mind. In other words, you are “Losing your shit” at 100%, and not 80% or even 90%. Notice any and all reasons the mind will invent to not have to do this. A few common objections are, “I would look funny,” “I would sound funny,” and “I don’t want to because it would feel like a performance.” It’s worth it, I promise. You only have to do it once!

Those are two of the most important exercises we do, but another extremely important exercise we do is hypnotically regressing them back to before the first event ever happened, and get them in touch with the innocence of their inner child. From here, we take the good and leave the rest, fully integrating their inner child, which is extremely important for fun, creativity, self love, and full self-expression. Unfortunately, we won’t have the time to go into that or the other exercises here.

Once the body has been cleared of trauma, it’s time for “The Arousal Counting Exercise”, which helps her meditate on her pleasure, and go deeper into her body than she ever thought possible. It’s simple. Every ten seconds or every time the number changes, your mouth is going to open and a number is going to come out on a scale of 1-10. 1 being no arousal, 10 being full on orgasmic climax. This number is going to come from the body, NOT the head, so it will look like, “2, 4, 5, 4, 3, 4.” It will not look like, “Uuuummm… I think it’s a 5. No, it’s a 4. Well it was a 5, but then I…” That means you’re in your head. We want to minimize the story. The story doesn’t need to be there. We want to quiet the head so that the body can actually FEEL the pleasure. 

The numbers will naturally fluctuate. It’s a good thing, I promise. Notice the thoughts that come into the head when the only instruction is to put 100% of your attention on the pleasure and count a number every 10 seconds or every time the number changes. Everything from “I’m not doing this right” and “I should be at a higher number” to “This is the stupidest exercise ever and I don’t want to do it. It’s pulling me out of my pleasure.” Master this one exercise and you will be able to orgasm any time you like.


The next three articles will be written by the amazing Valerie Taormina, and I’ll be back for the sixth and final blog post of the series where I’ll be talking about how to “Adjust Your Compass” to bring in the love you’ve been looking for and how “Old Paradigm” will try to drag you back once you step into your “New Paradigm,” and what can be done about it. Maybe I’ll even have room to talk about clearing everything out with 30 minutes of Gspot orgasm :)


Please practice the exercises above and post about your experience in the comments below. I will be happy to provide my encouragement as well as my insights! See you all soon!



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Ben and Jen Rode are living their life purpose, helping women bring in their man, money and purpose and helping them to fully embody the divine feminine, while honoring and supporting the divine masculine. They have created their own healing modality that uses the state of orgasm to plant post-hypnotic suggestions or affirmations. They are continuing to tear down the restrictions that have been placed on female sexuality, and are paving the way for all kinds of sexual healers to emerge through their upcoming TV show. They are here to make sexual healing mainstream, and to normalize Explosive Sexual Healing by making it the next hypnotherapy, the next reiki, the next talk therapy. 

Go to the website below and learn more about their transformational workshops.




January 7, 2014

Get What You Want In Bed to Get What You Want in Life

I am so excited to kick off this six week series on sex, relationships, and healing sexual trauma with Ben and Jen Rode and Valerie Taormina. In my work with survivors, I've come to understand the absolute importance of reclaiming our sexuality and opening the doors again to intimacy and orgasms. I know you are going to get so much out of this series! 

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The statistics say that 1 in 4 women have experienced some sort of sexual abuse. Unfortunately, we feel that the numbers are actually much higher. The majority of women who come into our practice have been sexually abused at some point, and only TWO of them reported it. The interesting thing is that the women who come to us who haven’t had any sexual abuse often display several of the same self-destructive or isolating patterns, and our theory is that sexual abuse is just a part of the collective unconscious. It’s a part of our culture. We are part of a society who sells through sex and then shames us for buying. We are shamed for everything about our sexuality, even though it is a natural human NEED that we then deprive ourselves of. Like food, water and sleep, sex/physical contact is something we need to live a fulfilling life. It’s in our DNA. We are wired to crave sex in order to guarantee that we never stop procreating. We are created through sex. We are born through sex. We are sex in every cell of our body. To shame us for sex is like shaming us for drinking water or for sleeping, and yet this is one way our society controls us.

We are taught from a young age that sex is bad and touching ourselves will get us a ticket straight to hell. So what do we do? Well, we can’t talk about it, so we internalize it. We hold on to that shame as tight as we can, because we don’t know what else to do about it. The antidote to shame is exposure. We need to bring the conversation about our sexuality back to the mainstream!!! We’ll know we’ve cleared shame from our society when it’s a normal thing to talk about sex in public. I can already feel some of you saying, “TALK ABOUT SEX IN PUBLIC???” Notice how it makes you feel inside to even think about talking about sex in public. Notice your breath. Notice parts in your body that may be constricted or holding tension. Notice thoughts about what others might think. Take note of anything that comes up. THAT is what needs to be cleared from your body.

Our power comes from being 100% comfortable with who we are on every level, ESPECIALLY our sexuality. Any fear or awkwardness we have about our sexuality on any level comes out in other areas of our life as well. If we are afraid of being seen in the bedroom, we can’t be fully seen in life. If we can’t be fully heard in the bedroom, we can’t be fully heard in life. If we can’t ask for what we want in the bedroom, well… you get the picture.

Can you imagine how this might affect someone with a business or a life purpose that requires people see her and hear her, and yet there is something keeping her from fully doing so? Even the most subtle incongruence is going to be spotted by people whether or not they are even aware of it. 

In order to be truly seen and heard (and therefore trusted) by the maximum amount of people possible, one’s external state needs to directly represent their internal state. This means that whatever is going on inside a person needs to be directly accessible to those around her. This is how you get what you want from the universe!!! When your internal state has one thing going on, but the external state is covering it up with something else, the universe manifests exactly what you’re instructing it to: Chaos and confusion. 

It’s perfect if your external state directly represents a messy or hysterical internal state, because people know it’s there anyway, and it’s just incongruent when it doesn’t come out directly. The point isn’t just to let it out. It’s to allow it to come to the surface so that it can be healed. Once your external state directly represents your internal state from a place of power, possibility and freedom, you will draw into your life, power, possibility and freedom.

We have several exercises, techniques and theories that we use to help clear sexual abuse and any other type of trauma from the body where it is stored, and we will be going over several of them over the next five weeks. If you
commit to trying on everything in the next five blogs, I can promise that you will have a major breakthrough in love, intimacy, and all around personal power.

In the next article, we will be talking about the Threat Response Cycle, how trauma gets trapped in the body, and most importantly, HOW TO GET IT OUT!!! We’ll be talking about everything from a practice we call “The Stop Technique,” to “Shaking it Out,” to “The Arousal Counting Exercise.” We might even talk about how to blow out negative thoughts, emotions, feelings using 30 minutes of “Full Release” Gspot orgasm as a state of hypnosis and what Neuro-Linguistic Programing would call a “Collapse Anchor.” Don’t worry, I’ll explain it all in detail, so you don’t need to get it all just yet. 

The important thing to know is that trauma can clear MUCH faster than most people think is possible. I’m talking about a matter of hours, or a few days at the most. In the last blog post of the series, I’ll be talking about how to “Adjust Your Compass” to bring in the love you’ve been looking for and how “Old Paradigm” will try to drag you back once you step into your “New Paradigm,” and what can be done about it. Does that sound like something you could find some value in? Good! It’s time to stretch your reality a little as you manifest an abundance of love, intimacy, pleasure, and wealth into your life. I trust you’ll stick around for the ride!!!



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Ben and Jen Rode are living their life purpose, helping women bring in their man, money and purpose and helping them to fully embody the divine feminine, while honoring and supporting the divine masculine. They have created their own healing modality that uses the state of orgasm to plant post-hypnotic suggestions or affirmations. They are continuing to tear down the restrictions that have been placed on female sexuality, and are paving the way for all kinds of sexual healers to emerge through their upcoming TV show. They are here to make sexual healing mainstream, and to normalize Explosive Sexual Healing by making it the next hypnotherapy, the next reiki, the next talk therapy. 

Go to the website below and learn more about their transformational workshops.



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