I'm not going to waste any time in this month's post - let's get right to the heart of the matter.
“How easily a life can become a litany of guilt and regret, a song that keeps echoing with the same chorus, with the inability to forgive ourselves. How easily the life we didn’t live becomes the only life we prize. How easily we are seduced by the fantasy that we are in control, that we were ever in control, that the things we could or should have done or said have the power, if only we had done or said them, to cure pain, to erase suffering, to vanish loss. How easily we can cling to – worship – the choice we think we could or should have made.”
― Edith Eva Eger, The Choice: Embrace the Possible
Let's break this down shall we?!
1. A song that keeps echoing the same chorus -- rumination my friends, spurred on by regret and anxiety. The problem is - if we keep playing the same tune in our minds, we will not see any opportunity for change, new possibilities, transformation - AND we keep living from a disempowered place - life always being something that is HAPPENING TO US rather than something we are experiencing, crafting, creating, and stewarding.
2. Inability to forgive ourselves -- so so many of us are comfortable with guilt. It's a familiar (and easy) feeling. When we turn away from guilt and towards self-forgiveness (releasing that which we wished had been different), the feeling you will allow in? - grief. Not so easy as guilt - often one people try with all their might to avoid. And yet, it is through our grieving that we plant new seeds for living.
3. The life we DIDN'T live becomes the ONLY life we PRIZE. Damn!!! Should I even elaborate or is that to the point enough? What a sad thing to be forever glorifying that which isn't while missing out on all this is!
4. How easily we are seduced...fantasy is a powerful tool, but it can have a very sharp edge. One that we use to cut ourselves again and again with the illusion of "if only". We imagine we can find the exact moment in our lives when a "should have" or a "could have" would have been our saving grace and all terror would have been banished. But no, this is a falsehood. Quit imagining the life you might have lived and live the life you have!
And with that - we access the true source of our power - choice and presence.
"I can celebrate your choice to dismantle the prison in your mind, brick by brick. You can't change what happened, you can't change what you did or what was done to you. But you can choose how you live now. My precious, you can choose to be free."
― Edith Eva Eger, The Choice: Embrace the Possible
If you're ready to choose yourself, life, today, freedom, I'm down to go on that journey with you! Apply for a Discover Your Genuine Self session today - let's do this!
To unlimited possibilities,
Watch this video about an amazing lost cats sanctuary that only came into existence because people believed in possibilities!
What is one thing you once believed would be impossible that actually you are now doing/experiencing?BOOK OF THE MONTH
Edie weaves her remarkable personal journey with the moving stories of those she has helped heal. She explores how we can be imprisoned in our own minds and shows us how to find the key to freedom. The Choice is a life-changing book that will provide hope and comfort to generations of readers.
UPCOMING EVENTS
ATTENTION BAY AREA PEEPS!
COMING MAY 2023!
I am so excited to have recently connected with Zulma Terrones - founder of LifeStages! She has traveled the world gathering information and insight into how we can achieve mental health & wellness through our engagement with nature.
She is currently looking for participants to join the pilot program she is launching this coming May.
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Registration will include:
- 3 outdoor adventures and 3 outdoor socials over a 6 week period
- Guided mental and emotional wellness techniques led by mental health professionals
- Outdoor technical skills taught by professional guides skilled in mental wellness and overall health.
- Access to Inner Sanctum, Life Stages’ online community, and education platform.
- Early access to future Life Stages events, exclusive launches, and resources
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Note the new time!!!
in partnership with CPTSD Foundation
in partnership with CPTSD Foundation
FEBRUARY 13th
Relationships
Relationships have great significance for us all in terms of support, love, validation, a sense of belonging, and even a sense of "family." We will explore what happens around our needs and wants in relationships and what comes up around getting attached.
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