Well hello there 2021!
I'm beginning the new year doing my best to channel some optimism. Maybe you are too?
With this on my mind, I got curious about this thing we call optimism.
Why is optimism such a pillar of my value system?
Why do I tend to respond to challenges by thinking, "I am sure this will work out for the good?"
Am I just being naïve to be open to the silver lining, especially given my lived experiences and the stories I hear everyday from my clients of violation?
So, I decided to look up the definition of the word. This is often where I start when trying to make sense of something and after watching The Professor and the Madmen, a movie about how the first edition of the Oxford English Dictionary came to be, I am even more grateful for this resource!
From the Latin optimum, which means "best thing", the word evolved through the combination of the French optimisme and English optimum to become optimism in the 18th century.
By definition, optimism is "hopefulness and confidence about the future."
I find it particularly interesting that the word remained in use but mildly so until around 1900, and then there was a huge upswing in the 1920s. Makes sense to me. How could you not feel hopeful about the future what with being on the other side of WWI, flappers, the entrance of the modern music era, speakeasies, and dances like the Shimmy, Lindy Hop, and Foxtrot!
A dip in popular use came in the 1940s (because, ya know, war), followed by an ever growing increase in usage of the word.
You'll notice though, that this chart serendipitously ends at 2019...haha okay data collectors, I get it. Not ready to face the music, but my guess is that next year when this chart is updated, optimism will be doing a little (big?) dip like the one recorded in the 40s.
In fact, according to a survey from market research firm YouGov, "Between June and August, the percentage of Americans feeling optimistic about the rest of 2020 dropped precipitously, from 54 percent to 46 percent."
And this has led to an increase in mental health issues, substance use, and reported thoughts of suicide, because, I would propose, without optimism and hopefulness, we are way more susceptible to what Jim Rohn describes as the "6 Emotional Enemies Inside Your Mind":
- FEAR
- INDIFFERENCE
- INDECISION
- DOUBT
- WORRY
- TIMIDITY
Here's the good news folks: optimism aka hopefulness aka good cheer aka expectation aka desire aka wish is the ANTIDOTE to all of the above.
This is why the very first lesson in the Beyond Surviving program is all about accessing hope!
Every single person who I have walked alongside in these past 14 years has had to conquer all of the above in order to take a leap of faith (hope that healing is possible) to be able to say "Yes!" to going on a healing journey with me as their mentor.
FEAR: What if I'm just too broken to ever be better?
INDIFFERENCE: Whatever, maybe this is just how things are going to be.
INDECISION: I can't trust myself to know what's best for me.
DOUBT: What if I try and nothing changes? What if I fail?
WORRY: This is all going to be way too much. I'm not going to be able to handle talking about this stuff.
TIMIDITY: I better just think about this some more. Maybe I'm not really ready.
In case you're wondering, that goes for me too!
I had to navigate all of these "emotional enemies", and this is one of the reasons why optimism has been and remains a major value for me.
It was my refusal to surrender and my commitment to believing that my future was mine to reclaim and make of it what I wanted that kept me going on the hard days.
Today, for many of my clients, they lean on my belief in that and in them until they are able to generate hope and optimism for themselves.
So, if you're still reading, my hope is that you are encouraged today. That you consider 2021 as your year of opportunity, reclaiming, and expectation that healing is possible!
As always, if there is anything I can do to be a resource and support to you, I'm here.
With hope,
P.S. Tired of waiting and ready to move forward in your life? If you identify as female, this upcoming group program is a great next step.
P.P.S. For those who identify as male, apply for a Discover Your Genuine Self Session to explore working with me one-on-one.
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