December 13, 2016

The Only True Change Occurs at the Level of Thought

Today, it is my great pleasure to introduce you to Terry Cranford. We go way back! Terry was among the very first people to stand behind my vision of creating a program for survivors of abuse. Beyond that, she is a deeply compassionate and insightful woman, and I'm so glad that she'll be with us this week and next sharing some of her wisdom for survivors who are also parents.


“We become what we think about. Then, it is most important
that we carefully regard our thought patterns. People and things
will respond and behave for us according to the pattern of our 
own thoughts. Others change as we change our thoughts about them. 
When we are no longer able to change a situation,
we are challenged to change ourselves.” 
~ Victor Frankl

Our Mother’s thoughts, while pregnant, set in motion a chemical reaction, empowered or disempowered, that infuses our being in utero.

The cultural, religious, and familial beliefs in our environment create our core beliefs about ourselves until the age of two years old.

These include "I’m not good enough, I’m unlovable, or I’m innately bad."

While growing up we observe, feel and become hard-wired in our thought processes, which fueled with our emotions, creates our behavior, thusly, neglect in childhood may cause parents to neglect or abuse their own children.

An individual's developmental history, especially if it includes childhood abuse, plays a significant role in the development of who we are and our parenting skills.

We each carry with us the influence of our own upbringing and the often unhealthy strategies we developed to protect our tender hearts.

What to do?

Firstly, acknowledge yourself for your awareness level. We have to ‘see’ something in order to ‘heal and change’ something.

Then, it is essential that you attract healing support in the creation of new and empowered thought patterns in order to self-parent and have a different experience.

The only thing we can control are our thoughts. ~ Viktor Frankl

A thought repeated 10 or more times becomes a belief. Affirmations are how we re-wire our brain.

And, while in the process of healing, I’m of the mind it is vital to create a vision of the style and type of parent you want to be for your children. Remove all obstacles to living your vision. Coaching support can be very helpful.

Forgiveness, of course, of Self and others is yet another essential part of this process. Forgiveness is an essential key to healing.

Forgiveness is your peace.

“Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone
free and realizing you were the prisoner.”

You do not have to go this alone! This takes time and is an ongoing practice.

Imagine the qualities you’d like to infuse your children with and begin to change your thoughts in order to change your parenting self.

I encourage you to take full responsibility for your thoughts, your parenting style and thusly your influence on your children and, thusly, humanity.


As a passionate Life & Yoga Coach, Terry L. Cranford offers yoga and life coach tools that will inspire you to change your thoughts in order to change your experiences.

• Trained Ashtanga Yoga Teacher
• Studied in India with Master Pattabhi Jois
• 20 years teaching in fitness environments
• 15 year focus customizing yoga programs
• Center of Excellence Trained Coach

1 comment:

  1. The structure of approach is sound and evidence based; it may be general enough to guide individuals towards achieving self-understanding and recreating themselves in a positive light.


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