May 11, 2016

How Classical Music Taught Me About Healing from Sexual Abuse

I recently came across this Ted talk by Benjamin Zander, who "has two infectious passions: classical music, and helping us all realize our untapped love for it — and by extension, our untapped love for all new possibilities, new experiences, new connections."

As I listened to him, in the first three seconds he tells a funny joke about two men who go to Africa to sell shoes. They call their boss and one man says, "It's hopeless, no one wears shoes!" The other man says, "This is a huge opportunity! No one wears shoes!"

I love love love this because it translates so perfectly to one of the things I often work on with my clients -- shifting our focus! Notice these two men walked into the same exact experience but ended up with two very different conclusions (and therefore next steps, options, feelings, opportunities).

When we are abused, our focus shifts so primarily to the negative, that we often end up walking through life only seeing defeat, misery, hardship, upset. And I'm not saying those things don't actually exist.

But, what I've learned in my healing journey and in helping others heal is that there is a choice, there is an opportunity to transform our perspective and shift our focus so that how we see ourselves, others, even the world can radically change.

This is just one of the many beautiful lessons Zander brings forward in this eloquent talk that has supported me in my own healing. Check it out!!

If you're ready to shift your focus, heal from abuse, and begin seeing yourself as you truly are, please don't hesitate to connect with me.


  1. Oh my goodness! How beautiful is this?

  2. Beautiful and I was given this by a client. I encourage you to keep sharing we all need that support of knowing we are not the only ones shouting! And the only one learning 😊


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