October 14, 2020

How to Embrace Your Weird!

This month, Rock Pitre, is joining us to share about embracing your weirdness!

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Hey everybody!! Rock here!!

How's everybody doing? I hope you're all doing well despite the pandemic.

As I live through this pandemic, I have come to embrace many things. I have embraced the fact that my wife and I both lost our jobs due to the Covid-19 virus. I have embraced the fact that the world as we knew it, is now long gone! Most importantly, this time has allowed to embrace myself and my weirdness!

Yes, I consider myself weird!! I also consider all of you to be weirdos too!! Don't take this the wrong way but we are all weird in our own way, especially those of us who have survived trauma. Some like to label it as being unique or special but I prefer calling it for what it is…weird! It's not intended to be a bad thing, in fact, I embrace it!! The faster you embrace your weirdness, the faster you will accept yourself in your as is state.

Don't fight your weirdness!! It's who you are and there's nothing wrong with that!! I love my weirdness now more than ever and my life has gotten much better because of it. Here are a couple of takeaways for you in hopes that you can embrace your own weirdness.


First, accept your weirdness!! You will never appreciate where you're going in life, if you can't accept where and who you are. If you don't accept your weirdness, you will never feel like you are enough. You'll always feel like there's a void inside of you and with that, feel like you have to fill that void, often with things that don't serve you. Trust me when I say this, you are enough!!

Secondly, once you truly accept your weirdness, you can then pursue meaningful and long lasting growth and development. If you don't, you'll never really appreciate your accomplishments. If you're not happy with who you are, you'll never celebrate your victories because the void I mentioned in the first point will never be filled! Pursuing growth and development has to come from a place of acceptance, otherwise, you'll spin your wheels for nothing!!

What I hope you do after reading this is simple. Accept the fact that we are all a little weird in our own way. There's nothing wrong with that! Yes, some people are definitely more weird than others!! This is true but, it should not negate the fact that your weird too! Don't be worried about the fact that you're weird, that shouldn't matter!! It's what you decide to do with your weird that matters!! Channel your weird towards something positive that brings value to the world and again, you are enough!!

I send this message to you with love and I hope it serves you well!!

Have a great weekend!!

Rock Pitre

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Rock Pitre is a Canadian Writer and Story Teller. Rock loves his wife and daughter and has an appreciation for sports and the outdoors. A Certified Life Coach with years of experience working on the front line, Rock has been helping others reach for their potential which fuels him to reach for his own.

https://www.yourjourneytowardswellness.com/
https://www.facebook.com/Rock-and-Nancys-Pit-Stop-104488977892029 (live morning shows and other posts intended to motivate others towards positive change)

October 9, 2020

Let's talk about childhood...

 

Time needed: 7 minutes


I love to read and in this video I share with you some big takeaways on love and life and the importance of mystery from Tom Robbins's "Still Life with Woodpecker". 


Here's to knowing it's never too late to have a happy childhood.


Watch Now!

https://youtu.be/5Uck5gnD5EU





October 5, 2020

Is your faith suffocating or serving you?

Today, I want to talk to you about something that can be very sticky for survivors of sexual trauma - faith. I know in my own personal journey, coming to terms with faith, God, religion has been an extremely painful process.

And I know I'm not the only one. Every day, clients share with me the angst they feel as questions like, "Why did God let this happen? Is there really a God? Is what I was told about my Higher Power really true?" Many survivors find themselves at a crossroads because of these questions (I know I did), and it can feel like one is left with an either/or situation -- either I believe everything I've ever been told and taught or I toss it all out.

That is just not true!

And that is exactly why I was so excited when my dear friend, Fawn, who is an amazing women's relationship empowerment coach, told me she was going to be offering something brand new.

It's her "Setting Yourself Free from Religious Bull****, Without Losing Your Faith" 7-Week group program for the spiritually frustrated!

Man, do I wish I'd had this back in the day when I was struggling to find my way and was desperate to cultivate a spiritual walk that worked for me but was feeling more and more stifled under a never-ending web of rules, expectations, fears, and frustrations.

Fawn is going to walk right alongside you to help you, as she says in her own words, "examine with compassion, humor, and honesty, your own story – and the conscious and unconscious dogma that wrote that story. When you see it, you can transform it. You can reclaim your authentic self, take back your power, and create authentic, liberated relationships with the people that matter most to you and stand for the future you long to create.

This isn’t about destroying your faith. It’s about reclaiming its power and realigning yourself with the core Truth of who you are meant to be in the world."



Listen to Fawn and I talk more about
this transformational course!


If you are ready to:

  • Restore the essential power of your faith.
  • Discover new freedom in all areas of your life.
  • Transform your most important relationships.
  • Release the weight of suppressed emotions.
  • Take a powerful stand for what matters most to you.
  • Join a growing community of love warriors.
...then do not wait - register for this course today!  


To a spiritual walk that serves you,



P.S. Keep an eye out - down the road, I'll be sharing with you an interview I did with Fawn in which I shared about my own personal spiritual journey story!



Watch my interview with Chris Times in which we tackle the big question, "Why did God let this happen?"



Read this article about how hidden sexism causes harm within the church



What spiritual practices keep you healthy, grounded, and sane?




BOOK OF THE MONTH



Becoming a man is challenging enough as it is, and adding sexual abuse to the mix can further complicate a boy?s transition into manhood. Being told to be strong, when all you want to do is cry, A Rocky Life is a journey that is familiar to everyone experiencing life, in their own way! The book describes the childhood trauma I experienced at the hands of my Father, who was a Police Officer at the time. The book also talks about how I changed my life around. In fact, the book provides you with several of the ?Ah Ha!? moments I experienced during my continued healing.

READ MORE HERE!


UPCOMING EVENTS




October: Special Writing Workshop with Donna Jenson

I am excited to announce that Donna Jenson will be returning this year to lead her "Honoring and Using Our Voices" workshop.

Donna founded Time To Tell™ in 2009 with a mission to spark stories from lives affected by incest and sexual abuse to be told and heard. It is a sponsored project of Fractured Atlas, a non-profit arts service organization. She wrote and performs her one-woman play, What She Knows: One Woman’s Way Through Incest to Joy, which is based on her own experience of surviving incest and what she did to make her life worth living. She will be sharing he amazing gifts for tapping into voice through writing during this month's group. Do not miss this!!


Learn More & Register Here



September 11, 2020

Let's talk about following your intuition...



Time needed: 3 minutes


Can it really be as simple as noticing whether you're an absolute yes or absolute no? 


Here's to making empowered decisions.


Watch Now!

https://youtu.be/T1GQZObjCNk






September 10, 2020

The Face of Child, Early and Forced Marriages: What Way Forward?

This month, Etali Genesis Akwaji, is joining us to share about practices within Cameroon that need to change, and the consequences of this long-standing practice. 

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SUSTAIN Cameroon is a grassroots non-profit that is based in the North West Region of Cameroon. Our organization has an aim to promote and protect the rights of women, girls and orphans and vulnerable children. We work to enhance the rights and well-being of women, girls and orphans and vulnerable children in communities across Cameroon and particularly in the North West Region of the country. We strive to promote their economic independence and create safe spaces for them to survive and to thrive. 

Our intervention is a bit weighted on the practical needs with the goal to build their economic resilience. We provide them with access to vocational skills training, income generation and small business practices and also creation of financial strengthening schemes with the introduction and institution of revolving savings and micro loan schemes in their midst to enable them to improve on their business capital and to stand on their feet. Our belief is that if these women are able to meet their basic needs without having to look up to their (abusive) partners, it is possible they can escape abuses and develop their niche of protection against all forms of violence against them. We also seek to return those willing to continue an education to school through scholarship assistance. 

Our current flagship program is to contribute to ending child, early and forced marriages and sexual exploitation. The project seeks to empower 50 child brides with income generation. Through this project we are providing small business capital, vocational skills training opportunities, scholarship support for continued education to child brides and girls at risk. We are also providing them with access to sexual and reproductive health and rights including menstrual health management. We also train them, their caregivers and some community volunteers on child protection, community activism and engage them as activists and campaigners against child, early and forced marriages, sexual exploitation, GBV, human trafficking and modern-day slavery. 

We are working in communities across the North West Region of Cameroon. With the involvement of volunteers, new partnership windows opened, we will be able to strengthen the efforts we are making and serve many more constituents who are also looking up to have their life's situations changed.

Issue of forced marriage in Cameroon! 

Early and Forced marriages remain a major concern in Cameroon. According to UNICEF (State of the World's Children 2017), 31% of girls in Cameroon are married before their 18th birthday and 10% are married before the age of 15. These figures are also released by the Ministry of Women's Empowerment and the Family, which stipulates that at least 41% of Cameroonian girls are forced into marriage and most of the time to much older men. 

The majority of girls falling victim to child, early and forced marriage are aged between 13 – 15, thus making the age group the most affected, this is amounting to about 60% of these girls falling victim to CEFM. 

The legal minimum age for marriage in Cameroon until now was 15 for girls, 18 for boys (Cameroon Penal Code). However, in 2016, the government committed to eliminate CEFM by 2030 in line with target 5.3 of the Sustainable Development Goals and after signing a joint statement at the human rights council in 2014 calling for a resolution on child marriage, took a giant step and made some legal modification to section 356 of the Penal code, thus raised the minimum age of marriage from 15 years for girls to 18 years to equate it for both boys and girls.

Cameroon is signatory to and has ratified several international human rights instruments/documents that set minimum age of marriage of 18 and which obligate states to ensure free and full consent to marriage. Some of these instruments are; the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) in 1993; the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW) in 1994; the African Charter on the Rights and Welfare of the Child, including article 21 regarding the prohibition of child marriage, in 1997; African Charter on Human and People's Rights on the Rights of Women in Africa, including article 6 which sets the minimum age for marriage at 18. 

Although the government has taken these important steps to eliminate child, early and forced marriages, a lot more still has to be done especially with the applicability and propagation of the amendment to the Penal Code and yet still the International Human Rights instruments to which it is party to as entrenched customs and traditions and gender inequality still dominate the scene especially at the local level. 

Notwithstanding, the vectors and catalysts to child, early and forced marriages are way beyond mere laws put in place as a majority of these girls who fall victim to CEFM emanate from very poor and resource limited families and communities. They are pushed into such marriages because of their living conditions and their inability to meet their basic needs. This is exacerbated by the absence of strong community mechanisms and structures to ensure they survive and thrive plus entrenched customs and traditions (say the way of life) that are the bedrock of the social constructs of the people and society and that have not been affected by the new law and decision to push the minimum age to 18 years for girls to be married and more or less outlawed by the International Human Rights Instruments sanctioning CEFM. 

Consequences of forced marriage on the girl child 

Girls who marry early are more likely to experience violence, abuse, and forced/coerced sexual relations. Early pregnancy and childbearing are some of the dangerous causes and consequences of the harmful practice of child marriage. CEFM robs the girl of basic human rights (e.g. education, reproductive rights, sexual and reproductive health and rights, consensual marriage, freedoms etc.) and of a future. Many of these girls who marry early are very vulnerable and susceptible to domestic violence, poor mental health, and malnutrition. Our resource limited communities act as catalyst and a push factor for child early and forced marriages, human trafficking and sexual exploitation of women and girls in the heart of our communities. Women and girls' inability to have access and control over productive resources, inheritance and landed property continue to be a strong vector for their vulnerability to all forms of gender based violence and abuses, child, early and forced marriages, sexual exploitation and human trafficking and modern day slavery. Many interventions seem to place a lot of emphasis on the strategic needs with little efforts on their practical needs and thus leaving them constantly to the threat and repeated cycle of abuse since they are unable to meet their basic needs and always have to depend on their (abusive) partners for survival. Providing them with sustainable solutions to their welfare is paramount to enabling them to build their resilience and to avail themselves of all forms of abuses. This documentary puts a face to the challenges that these women and girls undergo living in such abusive conditions and strive to stimulate a shift in approach and to enable a robust intervention to providing sustainable livelihoods solutions to these women and girls to enable them to survive and thrive. Alternatively, you can follow this YouTube link: https://youtu.be/xwftWhghQSE 

Our work is currently developing in communities across the North West Region of Cameroon with the hope to extend to other parts of the country. With your partnership, we will be able to strengthen the efforts we are making, scale up the work we are doing and to serve many more constituents who are also looking up to have their life's situations changed. it would be a wonderful opportunity to work together in the trenches, changing lives and in making the world safer and a better place for all. Please should you require additional information about or wish to partner or support our work, follow the links in the article and you can also contact us directly through our contact details 

#AMI #Fundacaoami #SUSTAINCameroon #Childmarriage #Endchildmarriage #EarlyPregnancies #Childbearing #CEFM #Sexualexploitation #SexualAbuse #Empoweringwomen #ChildAbuse #sextrafficking #domesticviolence #Metoo #womensrights #childrights #girlsrights #HeforShe #womenshealth #humarights

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Etali Genesis Akwaji is the founder/CEO the Association for Sustainable Development Livelihood Initiatives (SUSTAIN Cameroon); a grassroots non-profit with goal eradicate harmful practices that perpetrate violence against women and children. Etali has extensive years of work in community activism, leading advocacy against gender violence in the heart of our community. He is an ardent advocate for the promotion and protection of women and children's rights and a gender activist.

Website: http://www.sustaincmr.wordpress.com 

Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/SUSTAINCameroon 

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/sustaincmr 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sustain-cameroon-24516179 

YouTube: https://youtu.be/xwftWhghQSE

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